510: How I'm Rebuilding After A Hard Season (feat. Monique Shields)
Side Hustle Pro
Nicaila Matthews Okome | Side Hustle Pro Media
4.7 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 17 April 2026
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I’m joined again by Monique Shields, and this conversation felt like therapy, coaching, and truth-telling all in one. We went deep into something I’ve personally been navigating: what it actually looks like to move out of survival mode as a high-achieving woman, especially when life has been life-ing.
We talked about the invisible weight many of us carry, from parenting to business to unexpected life challenges, and how that impacts the way we show up, make decisions, and even spend money. One of the biggest shifts for me? Realizing I wasn’t telling myself the full story about what I had been carrying and surviving.
Monique breaks down how our mindset around scarcity, energy, and outsourcing can keep us stuck, and what it really means to “resource yourself” instead of just pushing through. If you’ve been feeling stuck, foggy, or like you’re doing everything but still not moving forward, this episode will hit home.
Main Takeaways
- You’re not behind, you’re likely operating without acknowledging everything you’ve been carrying
- Scarcity mindset after a hard season can quietly shape your decisions and keep you stuck
- Your energy, not just your time, is one of your most valuable assets
- Resourcing yourself (mentally, physically, strategically) is essential for growth
Highlights Include
- 00:00 – Reconnecting with Monique and what she’s been building
- 02:30 – Why intimate spaces and coaching containers matter
- 04:30 – Starting YouTube and breaking through creative burnout
- 06:00 – The hidden impact of hard seasons on decision-making
- 08:00 – Why you’re not telling yourself the full story
- 10:00 – High-achievers and the trap of self-pressure
- 12:30 – Why “feeling less overwhelmed” isn’t the right goal
- 15:00 – Scarcity mindset after financial or life shocks
- 18:00 – Why cost-first thinking keeps you stuck
- 21:00 – The “delusional belief” successful people hold about their future
- 27:00 – The real value of your time and energy
- 33:30 – What actually changed after hiring support
- 36:00 – Mental fog and why you don’t even realize you’re in it
- 40:00 – Why stability is not the same as hoarding
- 43:00 – What it really means to “resource yourself”
- 46:00 – The importance of having multiple “brains” supporting you
- 50:00 – Why your nervous system needs support in today’s world
- 52:00 – Reframing “I can’t afford it” into a choice
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| 0:00.0 | But as we're planning for the future, but our heart, our spirit is so anchored to these hurtful, painful moments in the past. |
| 0:06.0 | And it's meant to protect us, right? It's a part of our evolution to protect us as human beings. |
| 0:10.0 | We can over-index on everything that was so hard and so painful. |
| 0:15.0 | And yes, maybe the rug was pulled out. |
| 0:18.0 | But did you regain your balance? |
| 0:20.0 | Did you see how you walked out of that season on two solid feet on solid ground, right? |
| 0:25.2 | You're listening to Side Hustle Pro, the podcast that teaches you to build and grow your side hustle from passion project to profitable business. |
| 0:34.1 | And I'm your host, Nikaela Matthews Okome. |
| 0:36.8 | So let's get started. |
| 0:41.9 | Hey, friends. Hey, welcome, welcome back to the show. It's Nikaela here. And today's guest is |
| 0:46.0 | Monique Shields. Yes, she is back in the guest chair. Monique is an executive coach and the host of |
| 0:51.5 | the Ambition Without Compromise podcast. And the last time she joined us, |
| 0:55.5 | we talked about her journey from corporate into coaching. But since then, her work has deepened. |
| 1:01.3 | She's been leading intimate group coaching experiences, hosting retreats for women, and recently |
| 1:06.4 | completed a 30-day YouTube sprint where she shared powerful insights on ambition, burnout, |
| 1:12.6 | and what it really looks like to build a full life as a high-achieving woman and mom. |
| 1:17.6 | And this conversation was sparked by one of those videos, |
| 1:20.9 | a video on how to choose what to outsource as a high-achieving mom |
| 1:24.2 | and why so many of us struggle to do it even when we know we need the support. |
| 1:29.7 | Because it's not just about delegation. It's about coming out of hard seasons, rebuilding |
| 1:35.1 | trust with yourself around money, and learning how to resource your energy so you can actually |
| 1:40.7 | show up in your life and business the way you want to. In this episode, Monique breaks down the mindset shifts behind outsourcing, |
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