506: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn: How Survival States Block Our Manifestation Power and How to Move From Trauma to Transformation

Food Heals

Allison Melody

Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Nutrition

4.8 • 635 Ratings

🗓️ 30 September 2025

⏱️ 88 minutes

🔗️ Recording | iTunes | RSS

🧾️ Download transcript

Summary

We've all heard the promises of The Secret. If you think positive thoughts and raise your frequency, you can have, be, and do anything you want. But what happens when your nervous system is stuck in trauma and doesn't feel safe enough to receive? That's when manifestation stops working and survival mode takes over. In this episode of Food Heals, Allison Melody chats with Empowerment Strategist JJ Flizanes to explore the 4 survival states, how they block our manifestation, and how to move from trauma to transformation. Fight is when your body gears up to defend at all costs. Think Katniss Everdeen in The Hunger Games or Will Smith at the Oscars yelling, "Keep my wife's name out of your f--king mouth." Flight is when your system tells you to run or avoid the situation entirely. Scooby-Doo and Shaggy bolting from monsters. Forrest Gump's iconic "Run, Forrest, run." Meredith Marks disengaging. Freeze is when you shut down, dissociate, or feel paralyzed. Think Ophelia in Hamlet, frozen and silenced by grief. Harry Potter stunned into stillness when Voldemort reappears. Fawn is when you abandon your own needs in order to appease or please others. Kyle Richards feeling guilty when Kathy has to apologize to her, Sansa Stark pledging her loyalty to King Joffrey in Game of Thrones just to survive. In today's episode, you will learn: Why traditional Law of Attraction teachings stop at the mind and miss the body How trauma and unprocessed emotions can keep you stuck in survival states Tools to shift from survival into safety so you can finally align with your desires The exact steps JJ takes herself when she feels triggered and needs to reset Listen now to discover how to move from survival mode into flow so you can finally create the life you have been vision-boarding. Get tickets to JJ's event October 17–19 and save $250 with the code FOODHEALS250 at jjflizanes.com/unleash.

Transcript

Click on a timestamp to play from that location

0:00.0	You're listening to the Food Heels podcast.
0:08.1	Warning, side effects of this podcast may include increased health and vitality, thoughts of living longer, developing a more positive outlook on life, an increase in sexual activity, feelings of joy, cravings for kale and chemo, and a spike, and Tinder matches.
0:18.7	In rare cases, people have experienced a strong desire to put down the Ben and Jerry's, get off the couch, and take a walk outside. If you experience any of these symptoms, tell your Facebook friends immediately.
0:28.9	All right, welcome, Food Heels Nation. Thanks for joining me. I'm Allison Melody. Remember when The Secret came out? It was all the rage in like 2006 and the film promise that we could be, have, and do anything that we wanted by raising our frequency.
0:45.7	It taught us that our thoughts and feelings emit an energy that attracts matching experiences into our lives and that by focusing on what you do want instead of what you don't want,
0:56.7	then you draw those desired experiences towards you.
1:00.7	You know this secret gives you everything you want.
1:04.7	Happiness, health, and wealth.
1:06.8	You can have, do, or be anything you want.
1:10.5	So essentially, this was an over-dramatized version of the concept of You can have, do, or be anything you want.
1:16.1	So essentially, this was an over-dramatized version of the concept of the law of attraction.
1:18.8	And this was an exciting time from my memory.
1:20.4	So many of us were excited.
1:21.6	We were inspiring.
1:23.5	We were having vision boarding parties.
1:25.1	We were changing our thoughts.
1:26.0	We were journaling. And I was making active choices to take responsibility for my life, to be positive and to believe that I was worthy of the things that I wanted. And for a long time, I did create the life that I wanted. My wide-eyed innocentness worked in my favor for a long time, even with all the trauma that I had
1:46.1	been through, even with the loss of my family.
1:48.9	I was like, I'm not going to play the victim.
1:51.1	I figured out how to move forward and design the life that I wanted.
1:55.3	And honestly, the concept of manifestation almost felt effortless to me.
2:04.2	But as they say, all good things do come to an end because here's what the secret didn't talk about. The funny thing about trauma is that your
	...

Please login to see the full transcript.

Previous episode | Next episode

Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Allison Melody, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.

Generated transcripts are the property of Allison Melody and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.