50. Tolerating Difficult Emotions
Insource
Ashlie Molstad
4.2 • 940 Ratings
🗓️ 26 October 2023
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
A lot of what we do here and what I teach is to focus on our thinking, because our thoughts truly create our reality. It is crucial that we understand this- because right now we’re blaming our life on the facts and circumstances and people around us.
But, today I want to teach you an evolved concept. One where we take your painful thought and instead of trying to thought swap to get to a better feeling, we make your painful thought a fact, and then decide how we want to feel about that.
This is especially helpful when you’re dealing with a diagnosis, a tragedy, a schedule that is out of your control, mental health issues, etc.
In today's episode, I walk you through what this process looks like and how you can use it in your life to grant yourself peace even in the midst of pain.
Nothing has gone wrong. This too shall pass. And it doesn’t have to be the best time for it to still be worth your time. Sometimes life is hard and we can do hard things!
See you inside💥
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| 0:00.0 | So in all circumstances are neutral. Yes, even the bad ones. They're all neutral. They don't become a positive or negative until we have a thought about it. |
| 0:07.7 | So there's the circumstance. We have a thought that thought then triggers a feeling in us. Now what we often do is we say we feel |
| 0:16.2 | something because of a circumstance. I feel frustrated because of my mother-in-law. |
| 0:21.0 | I feel sad because I wasn't invited to the party. I feel jealous |
| 0:26.9 | because my friend got a promotion, right? But no circumstances or facts of the world can cause feelings. |
| 0:35.0 | Thoughts cause feelings. Hello, welcome back to the Insource Podcast. |
| 0:54.0 | My name is Ashley Molstead, and I'm going to be hanging out with you today. |
| 0:58.0 | You and your beautiful brain, and I'm so grateful that you are here. |
| 1:03.2 | Today is an interesting concept one |
| 1:05.3 | that I want to introduce you to, |
| 1:07.0 | but in order to introduce the idea of tolerating difficult emotions. |
| 1:13.1 | I want to sort of backtrack a little bit |
| 1:15.4 | and recap what I generally teach |
| 1:18.6 | and what I work on now. |
| 1:19.8 | So I got certified through the Life Coach School. |
| 1:22.0 | They teach something called the model. The model |
| 1:25.2 | says that there are circumstances of the world, there are circumstances which are facts. |
| 1:30.1 | 100% of people on the planet would agree with, we could prove it in a court of law. |
| 1:35.0 | Then those in all circumstances are neutral. |
| 1:38.0 | Yes, even the bad ones. |
| 1:40.0 | They're all neutral. They don't become a positive or negative until we have a thought about it. |
| 1:45.0 | So there's the circumstance. We have a thought that thought then triggers a feeling in us. |
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