Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast, a place for honest conversations and practical advice on how to build an awesome marriage.

I am your podcast producer and co-host, Lindsay Few.

On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberly.

Dr. Kim is a marriage counselor and has been married for over 50 years. His passion is to help you

strengthen your most intimate relationship. Last week we talked about what a one-sided

marriage looks like and how to tell if you are in one. This week we'll talk about the five things

that can help you in your marriage,

even if your spouse is not on board. Dr. Kim says that the only person you can control is you.

You can't change your spouse, but you can change you. Taking control of these five things will

help you be your best, healthiest self, even when your marriage feels out of control.

So, Dr. Kim, can you talk to us about how the only person

you can control is you? Yeah, I mean, it, it, um, sometimes it's a hard concept because I think

we feel like we, because if they would just do this, their life would be better, our marriage would

be better, you know, all this kind of stuff, and you have this great deal.

But you can't control your spouse.

And I think the sooner that we realize that it helps us focus on ourselves and what we can do

and what God has for us to do.

And so I think when I learned that my best prayer was asking God to help me be the best husband for Nancy,

instead of asking him to change her, that that was a much better prayer.

And so, and what I think Nancy and I both learned out of that prayer is that God never will change something in me or something in her that's not good for our marriage.

And so I think when you

go with that confidence, it really is just saying, okay, I can't control anything, but God's got

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