All right team, welcome back to the man talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

Today we're going to be talking about the five steps that you can take to end your people

pleasing.

And I'm going to actually talk about what creates the people pleasing habit and sort of mindset and behavior. And then I'll talk about

why it might be the most detrimental thing to your sense of self-worth and your relationships.

And then I'm going to share with you how you can break free from it. So look in the description

below. And there's a free guide there for you on how to develop self-worth as a man. Now, I've seen so many men

struggle with self-worth, and I've put together a great resource for you that is free for you to

just work on that self-worth. So check it out in the description below. Okay, let's dive in. What the

heck is people pleasing? Why does this even matter? Why is it so important? Why

do so many people struggle with it? Well, first and foremost, people pleasing is really an attachment-based

issue where you learned in your childhood growing up, in your family system, that other people's

needs were more relevant and more important than yours. You may have

learned that in order to get your needs met, you actually had to over-prioritize somebody else's

needs. You had to make mom happy and ensure that she was fully taken care of. Or you had to,

the very common one is, you know, you had to make sure that everything,

that like everything was perfect for dad in order to get a like, good job, you know,

or like a little bump on the shoulder.

So people pleasers are sometimes people that have grown up in an environment where love

was performance-based.

Love was very conditioned and conditional on how well you performed.

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