Five reasons why you will fall in love with the wrong person at least one time in your life,

potentially a few times in your life. The first reason is this. We are meant to get it wrong. We're meant to get it wrong.

We are meant to learn from our experiences. How, I mean, how are we supposed to know exactly

how to be in a relationship, how to overcome our ego, how to communicate, how to sustain a relationship for the long term, if we've never seen it.

And if we're never taught this in school.

Because until we actually have experiences with people who are, for whatever reason, wrong for us and we are actually wrong for them, we can't know what's right for us.

How can we know joy and happiness if we don't know sadness?

Part of the journey of life is making a lot of mistakes, a lot of detours, and hopefully learning from those mistakes and gathering the data, the information that those mistakes kind of revealed to us so that we can make better

decisions. Part of being human is having relationships that don't work out with people who we later

discover were not supportive, couldn't meet our needs, or just wanted totally different things

out of life, we just weren't compatible with them? Or that was the right person for me for a season,

but that wasn't the right person for me beyond a month or six months. The first reason why you are going to fall in love with

the wrong person is because we are meant to get it wrong. And number two, our childhoods

will show up in our adult romantic relationships. And this is a hard truth that no one teaches us, that any sort of unfinished business from our

childhoods will show up in our adult romantic relationships. We will often, but not always,

and this is a myth that I really want to bust today, we will often fall in love with

someone who our unconscious mind might register as familiar. That familiarity could be related

to a parent who wasn't available to you or was even abusive or was struggled with addiction or mental health issues

or just wasn't really truly available. Maybe they were working all the time. Your unconscious

might register the familiar in childhood peers who bullied us and impacted our sense of self.

And so therefore, we're choosing people from that very old but yet familiar place of lowered self-esteem.

And then we tolerate less than what we deserve.

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