What if I told you that chasing love makes you less attractive?

The truth is magnetism isn't about clinging or proving your worth.

It's actually about being in alignment, healing, and choosing healing daily.

I'm sharing five lessons that I've learned from my conversations with my wife, Martha, that will help you stop chasing and start healing and become truly magnetic in love and in life.

There's five key lessons. The first lesson for this is a big one.

And that is, don't make someone your whole world.

The fastest way to push someone away is to make them your

entire world every day. Real attraction happens when your world is already full. It's already

expansive. You've already got a lot of activities, people in your life, and you're feeling

purposeful and you're feeling fully alive. And then you invite

the person into that world. A lesson from this is that real attraction comes from having

your own world, your own values, your vision, your mission, and letting your partner be

one important planet in that universe of your world. Martha told me that she's not my entire world.

She said, I'm not your world. I'm your Jupiter. In your solar system, you have your family,

you have your friends, you have your activities, your hobbies, your purpose, and I'm a big planet

in that. And I really think

that's interesting to think about because if you go all in and invest in someone and they become

your entire life, 24-7, you obsess about them, you're texting them, you're always want to be with

them. There's some cool chemistry and that seems like a beautiful like love story to tell people that hey we were

obsessed with each other for the first few months in the first year we couldn't stop being around

each other but you start to lose yourself in another person and that starts to become a repellent

after a period of time and when I built a full vibrant life myself I became way more attractive because I wasn't in a

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