495: "I Want To Want Him But I Do Not" - Why Your Intimate Life Feels Like It Has Died and What To Do About It with Susan Bratton
Midlife Conversations with Natalie Jill: Fat Loss, Hormones & Health for Women Over 40
Natalie Jill
4.8 • 635 Ratings
🗓️ 2 December 2025
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
Why does the thought of intimacy make you want to hide under the covers...alone?
If you're a midlife woman who's lost that loving feeling, you're not broken (you're just like the rest of us) and we've been playing by the wrong rules. In this conversation, intimacy expert Susan Bratton exposes the truth about female arousal that nobody taught us (especially not those s3x-ed classes back in the day). We dive deep into why it takes women 20 minutes to achieve what men accomplish in 2 minutes, why "duty booty" is destroying relationships, and how to transform obligation into genuine desire.
Susan shares her personal journey from a s3xless marriage at 42 to having the best intimacy of her life at 64. We explore practical solutions like the yon! massage, why scheduling intimacy isn't unromantic, and which tools and supplements actually help. Plus, Susan reveals why everything you've seen about s3x is built for male pleasure and how to flip the script…for good.
This conversation will change how you think about your body, your relationships, and your right to pleasure: it's not about not loving your partner or not wanting connection, it's about that disconnect between what you wish you felt and what you actually feel.
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| 0:00.0 | What happens when you want to want him, but you just don't or you can't? And you keep hearing about |
| 0:07.5 | this sex life and midlife and that you should enjoy it and be excited for it. And you're just |
| 0:13.4 | missing that desire. It's just gone. It's left the building. Or maybe you haven't had it in |
| 0:17.8 | years. Welcome to Midlife Conversations. |
| 0:21.9 | I'm your host, Natalie Gillen. |
| 0:23.2 | I'm passionate about having amazing conversations |
| 0:26.0 | that matter to us midlife women. |
| 0:28.2 | On this podcast, I do what I do best, |
| 0:30.6 | taking complicated health topics |
| 0:32.1 | and breaking them down simply |
| 0:33.6 | so that we can optimize aging together. |
| 0:36.6 | I share actionable steps to help you thrive in what |
| 0:39.2 | I believe are our best years to come. Join me as I interview the most inspiring people living |
| 0:44.9 | their best midlife years and dive into essential topics like hormone changes, health optimization, |
| 0:50.1 | weight management, blood sugar, emotional well-being, relationships, beauty, and so much more. |
| 0:56.8 | This is a conversation I wanted to open up today on Midlife Conversations. I've got my friend Susan |
| 1:01.1 | Bratton here. Now, she's the intimacy expert to millions. And I'm going to let you, I'm going to |
| 1:06.6 | let her share in just a moment. I asked her at the beginning. I said, if you were sitting next to |
| 1:09.9 | somebody on an airplane and they said, what do you do? How would you answer that? And I wanna just share that I met her recently. We have similar circles of friends and groups, but I met her recently. She was speaking at my friend, Shalene Johnson's event, and I had just gotten off the stage speaking, and I saw the audience going berserk. |
| 1:28.6 | Like, I've never seen this response of midlife women, literally going berserk's over her talk. |
| 1:34.2 | And I thought, I've got to know more. |
| 1:35.5 | I've got to understand more. |
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