Hello, hello, and welcome to the new mindset who this podcast my name is

Case Kenny at Case.canny on Instagram and this is my weekly podcast where I

create short no BS episodes dedicated to helping you be the person you're meant to be

leave your comfort zone and live a fulfilling and purposeful life let's go

all right welcome to episode 493 hello my friend welcome to a fresh new episode of

new mindset who does as always thank you for listening thank you for

supporting me and today something that is so so simple but I really like the

principle of what I'm going to talk about here what I'm going to advocate for

because it kind of underpins how backwards our thinking is in life sometimes

that is we spend a lot of time thinking about how to show our love to other

people we think about how we can be good friends or good partners or good

colleagues we're very inclined to forgive other people to be empathetic to

other people if you read my book that's bold of you you know I talk about

something called the beautiful mess effect which describes our inclination to

applaud vulnerability in other people we love it we want and we complement

real raw vulnerable weird people right so we give a lot of things very freely

love forgiveness compliments applause empathy but then there's little old you

little old me the beautiful mess effect also says that we applaud vulnerability

in other people but in a way we despise it in ourselves we love other people

who are weird raw and vibrant but we think we are cringey or needy or too

sensitive when we're the same we forgive other people freely but we cling to

guilt and shame in our own lives very resistant to the idea of actually

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