#492: Stop Negotiating With Future You

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 29 December 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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In this episode I share a raw, unexpected series of moments—that all converge on one unavoidable truth: life is fragile, and integrity can’t wait. I explore how incongruence slowly kills our aliveness, how the smallest compromises quietly accumulate, and why waiting for the “right time” is the most dangerous lie we tell ourselves. This is a direct, unfiltered invitation to stop negotiating with your future self, to reclaim your attention from the distractions anesthetizing your potential, and to live in alignment with what you already know is true. Because every choice you make is either life-affirming or life-draining, and one day, you won’t have the luxury of pretending otherwise. Sign up for my workshop: www.createthelove.com/reclaim Resources: —Get My Breakup 5 Day Audio Series and Workbook: www.createthelove.com/breakupaudio Get My Book! Liberated Love - Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire: https://markgroves.com/book —Explore My Courses: https://markgroves.com/courses Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Changing your relationship with your phone is actually easier than you think.
0:03.9	And I know that because I've done it.
0:06.2	As most of you know, I left Instagram in 2025, which was supposed to be forever, but it turned
0:11.1	out to just be six months.
0:13.1	And the reason I left was so that I could understand on a much deeper level what was
0:16.9	happening in my body, you know, with my attention and my mind and my phone. And during that time,
0:23.5	I went deep into the research, the psychology, the neuroscience, the nervous system regulation
0:27.7	aspects of it. And I started to ask the real questions I had. Why did my phone create resentment?
0:34.7	Why did I feel powerless in relationship to my phone and social media?
0:39.1	And why did I feel anxious even when I wasn't using it? And why did just using it less never
0:44.9	actually work? There was something deeper that I need to understand. And what I found surprised me.
0:50.5	It turns out that there are very real biological and psychological reasons our relationship
0:54.7	with our phones feel so charged. And it goes beyond just dopamine loops or willpower. And here's
1:01.4	the most important part. Once you understand what's really happening, changing your relationship
1:06.1	with your phone stops feeling like fight. It actually becomes pretty practical and it feels very grounded.
1:12.0	Now, on January 4th, I'm going to be teaching you everything I've learned. I'm running a live
1:15.8	workshop on how to reclaim your attention and rebuild a healthy relationship with social media
1:20.7	and your smartphone without having to give it up and without swimming in shame. I'm going to be
1:25.4	sharing the most profound insights I gained during that six-month break,
1:28.9	things I've never shared before, along with simple tools that you could just apply immediately
1:33.3	once you're done the workshop.
1:34.9	Tools that will work with your nervous system, not against it.
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