486 How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boundary Violations
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
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🗓️ 7 March 2023
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
Do you have "repeat boundary offenders" in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn't do, even though it upsets you?
Are you tired of boundary violations, but don't know how to get through to boundary bullies?
If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you
I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It's time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood.
Of course, setting consequences doesn't guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to.
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello there and welcome to this episode of The Terrible Show that I want to start with |
| 0:04.9 | a question, do you have any boundary bullies or what I like to call repeat boundary offenders |
| 0:10.9 | in your life? |
| 0:12.3 | You may feel like a broken record, like you're saying the same shit over and over, making |
| 0:16.3 | the same requests and even once they've agreed and said they won't do the thing or they're |
| 0:20.8 | sorry they did the thing, then they still do the thing again. |
| 0:24.3 | Anybody? |
| 0:25.3 | Just raise your hand. |
| 0:26.3 | Today's episode is for you because in today's episode I'm going to be talking about what |
| 0:32.2 | are consequences for boundary violations, how you can set them and why they matter, why |
| 0:38.7 | they're so incredibly important as a part of our communication and as a part of creating |
| 0:46.9 | boundaries that are enforceable, we've got to know what the consequences will be if someone |
| 0:53.2 | steps over those boundaries, especially if they do it multiple times if they're a repeat |
| 0:57.3 | offender. |
| 0:58.3 | So I want to take a moment to just say, wow, thanks for being here, I so appreciate you. |
| 1:04.8 | I know you know, I do and I know I probably say it every episode, but really without you, |
| 1:13.0 | there'd be no Derek Olsho, right, without the listeners, without you learning and getting |
| 1:18.8 | something from it and telling me that I wouldn't still be doing it. |
| 1:24.0 | It's seven years going into eight years later and I love it still because I'm so incredibly |
| 1:29.6 | committed to you, living the life that I know that you can create and that you deserve. |
| 1:38.2 | You can be doing anything right now and the fact that you're hanging out with me just |
| 1:40.9 | really warms my heart. |
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