485 - My Ex Hurt Me Deeply. Can We Still be Friends? Listener Q&A

Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

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Sexuality, Self-improvement, Relationships, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

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🗓️ 25 June 2024

⏱️ 63 minutes

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We're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to do when you're in love with someone who hasn't disclosed that you're in love to their nesting partner, getting clarity on why you might want additional partners, and how to stay friends with an ex who has hurt you badly in the past. If you'd like your question answered on the show, consider joining our Patreon! If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! Cut out single-use plastic in your laundry room and claim forty percent off your Earth Breeze subscription at EarthBreeze.com/multi.Quality lube is essential for good sexual experiences. Try our absolute favorite, Uberlube and get 10% off plus free shipping with promo code MULTIAMORYGet 20% off your first order of the world's smartest cat litter at prettylitter.com/multiamory with promo code MULTIAMORYThis episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/multi and get 10% off your first month. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	I want to validate the fact that it is difficult to decouple yourself from another person in so many ways and the idea of them not being in your life anymore
0:17.2	after maybe they were in your life for years is really intense and maybe even traumatic and so I want to acknowledge that that is
0:27.6	understandable that this might be a difficult time for them and that they want to cling to some part of this relationship and maybe a friendship maybe you know that seems like a way in which they can continue this relationship in some form.
0:44.0	But I also know from experience, you've got to give it a while.
0:49.0	And maybe that will ultimately become a friendship, but the pain that's there right now for probably both of you need some real honest time to put away to work through to grieve before anything can come out of this
1:09.9	relationship again that's not just going to add more fuel to the fire and more
1:14.8	hurt to what you're currently going through.
1:18.8	Welcome to the Multiannary Podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm Dettaker. We believe in looking to the future of
1:26.8	relationships not maintaining the status quo of the past. Whether you're
1:31.4	monogamous polyamorous, swinging, casually dating, or if you just
1:36.2	do relationships differently, we see you and we're here for you. Fongs I know I did.
1:48.0	Forcing me to form myself to fit.
1:55.0	On this episode of the Multie Amory Podcast, we're answering questions from some of you, our
2:00.4	listeners.
2:01.4	Today we're discussing what to do if your partner hasn't informed
2:05.2	their nesting partner that the two of you are in love. We'll be gaining some
2:08.8	clarity about why you may want additional partners and also how you can intentionally work on keeping
2:14.8	an X in your life when that relationship ended and you want to keep them in your life.
2:19.3	If you're interested in learning more about our fundamental communication tools that are essential to a lot of the answers
2:25.1	we give on here, you can reference our book, Multiamery, Essential Tools for Modern Relationships,
2:31.1	which covers some of our most used communication tools for all types of
2:35.0	relationships.
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