Katie, do you have any tips for how to avoid resentment building up in areas where your spouse

continually disappoints you slash doesn't live up to your expectations or what you've asked

of them?

That's the question that I have for you.

That actually comes from a listener.

Well, I don't have any resentment towards you. I guess you do all those things.

But I do think that this is a great question. I think it's very common among women to build up

resentment. Maybe women just talk about the resentment that builds up. Maybe men have resentment

that builds up too. They just don't let other people know. Yeah, I think men totally build up resentment. This isn't a one way straight at all. I don't even know if this is a guy or a gal that asked this question. Yeah, that's a great question. I just, I typically hear about it coming from women, which I think is a great thing to address because a resentful wife, you can see from, you know, a long ways away. And it's easy to fall into this trap of being resentful. So I'd take a number one thing that I would encourage, actually, I'm thinking of all these things. Okay.

Hierarchy-wise, your relationship with the Lord is what's going to matter most in this situation, who you are as a woman that's walking before the Lord and submitting your desires and your needs to him.

And I know that I really didn't used to like that answer because it was kind of like,

okay, yada, yada, let's get to the practical stuff. But this can be very practical. And this can look like spending, like, how much time do you have

actively going towards reading scripture? How many times do you, how much time do you

actively have towards prayer, like focused prayer? I love praying throughout my day. Like,

how much time do you actually have in a heart posture that is

changing your heart into a more grace-filled woman? This is something I've been very challenged with

this year myself. So I'm not, I'm encouraging you in this as someone who has seen that I have just

been looking for the practical tips and tricks and kind of proverbs type stuff when it comes to

marriage, which is wonderful

because we know that that gets results. But I think I just thought that my relationship with

the Lord was, you know, I've been freed, I'm covered in his righteousness, I'm a Christian. So now I

just live my life instead of seeing it as I can really change my heart posture. I can become a less resentful

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