479 Why the Most Responsible People Struggle in Silence (with Dr Margaret Rutherford)
Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
Kimberley Quinlan, LMFT | Anxiety & OCD Specialist
4.9 • 882 Ratings
🗓️ 1 April 2026
⏱️ 33 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we explore how perfectly hidden depression can live beneath strength and success, and how learning to gently open up can begin to set you free.
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| 0:00.0 | Some of the people who look the strongest on the outside are carrying the heaviest emotional |
| 0:08.1 | load on the inside. Today we are talking about why the most responsible people often struggle |
| 0:15.2 | in silence and how perfectly hidden depression can hide behind success, reliability, and strength. Today we have |
| 0:24.7 | Dr. Margaret Rutherford. We've had her on the show before. She's a clinical psychologist whose book |
| 0:30.8 | Perfectly Hidden Depression has reached global audience. It's been translated into dozens of different |
| 0:37.1 | languages. And she has a TED Talk |
| 0:39.2 | speech that has over 2 million views. Dr. Rutherford has now written her second book, |
| 0:46.1 | The Perfectly Hidden Depression Workbook, to help readers recognize this and address this hidden |
| 0:51.7 | crisis. So thank you for being here. You know, you're one of my |
| 0:58.6 | favorite people, Kimberly. And please call me Margaret. So so thank you again for having me on and for |
| 1:06.7 | writing a incredibly kind and eloquent forward for the book. So I wanted you to do it and I was so, |
| 1:15.2 | I got tears in my eyes when I read it. So thank you so very much. My pleasure. It was an honor. |
| 1:21.0 | I can't believe you asked me truly. I get goosebumps just thinking about it. So yes, you have done such influential work. |
| 1:30.0 | Now, for those who haven't listened, you've been on the show before, but I just want to give |
| 1:33.7 | them a little bit. |
| 1:34.6 | It was seven years ago, so that was, I absolutely forgotten. |
| 1:38.6 | This book changed my life, right? |
| 1:40.7 | Like, I read your book and I was like, this is me. |
| 1:43.5 | And so it was such, this is me. And so it was so, so, |
| 1:46.4 | it was such a movement for me. And so I'm so grateful that you're here now because you've |
| 1:52.1 | decided to put the book into a workbook format. If only I had have had that in my early 20s, |
| 2:00.1 | I think it would have saved me a lot of suffering. |
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