#474 Don’t Waste A Good Breakup

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Society & Culture, Relationships

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 8 September 2025

⏱️ 16 minutes

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In this episode I break down the three biggest mistakes people make when navigating a breakup—and how to avoid them so you don’t repeat the same painful patterns. I share why leaving the door open keeps you stuck, how failing to prioritize your healing sabotages your self-worth, and why allowing others to dictate the terms of connection robs you of the love you actually want. This conversation is a wake-up call to stop self-abandoning, reclaim your power, and walk through the breakup as the portal of transformation it truly is. Resources: TO GET 10% OFF OUR BREAKUP RECOVERY COURSE, USE CODE: HEAL www.createthelove.com/breakup Here's the link to the episode on co-parenting and boundaries with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: https://markgroves.com/episode/dr-alexandra-solomon-boundaries-boundaries-boundaries/ Follow me and my work here: —Subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/markgrovestv —Follow my Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/markgrovespodcast —Subscribe to my Newsletter: https://markgroves.com/newsletter —Subscribe to my Substack: https://markgroves.substack.com —Instagram - @createthelove: https://www.instagram.com/createthelove —Facebook - @createthelove: https://www.facebook.com/createthelove Have A Question? —Have a Question For Mark That You’d Like To Hear Answered on the Podcast? Leave us a Voice Note Here: https://www.speakpipe.com/TheMarkGrovesPodcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com Drop us a note at podcast@markgroves.com for sponsor product support, questions, comments, guest suggestions, or just to say hello! This episode is sponsored by: —Institute for Integrative Nutrition: Certified Health Coach Training: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast. I've now worked with thousands of people who have gone through breakups. And my own birth of wanting to understand relationships was from going through a breakup. I wanted to understand like why does society have such a challenge with relationship endings? Like, why do we shame people who go through
0:22.2	breakups and divorces? Why are we so terrified of our own relationships ending, even if that
0:28.4	ending is in service of our own growth? And regardless of whether we choose the ending or not,
0:33.7	it has to be in service of our growth because it's happening so we don't have a choice.
0:43.4	So we can either turn towards our breakups from a lens of how do I use this experience to completely change my life and try to never feel this way again, end up in the exact same pattern,
0:49.0	or I cannot do that and just end up back at the same door with the same type of relationship experience, maybe a different person.
0:56.8	And of course, I'm going to subscribe to the part of like transformation, but that wasn't always true.
1:01.7	I wondered why was it when I was like 17 or 19 or 21?
1:05.6	I was so terrified of processing the grief and the anger and I didn't even know how to feel all those feelings.
1:11.3	I didn't even know there was a such thing as relationship patterns. I just found myself in a pattern
1:15.8	where I was seemingly with people who were somewhat unavailable and I had a problem standing in
1:20.9	boundaries and betrayal seemed to be the outcomes that I kept experiencing by other people, but really I was
1:26.8	betraying myself.
1:27.9	So, hey, and I noticed there are really three things that people do consistently wrong, going
1:36.8	through a breakup.
1:37.8	And now having worked with and witnessed so many people go through it, I have inputed the strategies to help support them
1:46.5	go through that stuff and seen when they do not take these steps, ooh, a whole lot of effie
1:52.8	ensues. And they end up just stuck. Stuck, never being able to create the relationship they
1:59.3	desire because they're still in the pattern.
2:02.2	You know, I have so much compassion.
2:03.7	If you're watching this and you're going through a breakup, maybe it's fresh, maybe it's not,
2:07.5	maybe the door's kind of open, it's kind of closed, blah, blah.
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