472: These 2 Identity Questions Changed My Year
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
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🗓️ 17 December 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Imagine if two simple questions could completely rewrite your year. Not by pushing harder or doing more, but by shifting your self-image. These are the questions that change everything as you move into a new year.
One of the greatest resources I use in my life is to ask profound questions – none of the fluffy, surface-level stuff. In fact, I disappear for 24 hours every December to gain clarity on what I truly want.
And here's the truth: answering these two questions that I'm sharing today can honestly shift your next 365 days from habitual to intentional.
Here's what we cover:
• Why the two questions you ask yourself can determine the identity you build next year
• How tolerations drain energy, lower standards, and quietly shape a self-image of "settling"
• Why choosing one thing you're done tolerating creates powerful, focused transformation
• How identity (not willpower) is what ends old patterns and habits
• The practice of becoming the woman who no longer tolerates the old version of your life
• How small, daily actions reinforce a new self-image and create your next-level year
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| 0:00.0 | Imagine if two questions could completely rewrite your year. |
| 0:04.3 | Not through hustle, not through pressure, but through your identity. |
| 0:08.5 | Well, today I'm sharing the two questions that changed my year, and they may be the two most important questions that you ask yourself before the next one begins. |
| 0:18.5 | Welcome to the School of Self Image, where our motto is simple. |
| 0:22.7 | Elevate your self-image, elevate your life. I'm Tanya Lee, your hostess, and I'll guide you |
| 0:27.8 | to become the woman who doesn't just dream bigger. She lives bigger. Let's dive in. |
| 0:35.1 | Hello, friends, and welcome to this episode. One of the greatest tools that I use in my work and in my own life is the ability to ask profound questions, not fluffy questions, not surface questions, but the kinds of questions that go deep into your subconscious mind to reveal the truth of |
| 0:56.4 | what's really blocking you, what you truly want, not what you should want, and what matters most |
| 1:02.4 | you. And most importantly, the identity that you need to step into next. A single, honest question |
| 1:08.6 | can shift your entire year. So as we approach the end of the year, |
| 1:13.5 | I ask myself many, many questions. In fact, I disappeared for 24 hours to gain clarity and really |
| 1:19.5 | set powerful intentions for the next year. But if I had to choose just two questions to ask myself |
| 1:26.5 | that really cut through the BS and get me super |
| 1:29.1 | clear, it would be the two I'm going to share with you today. So let's start with the first. |
| 1:35.3 | Question number one is, what are you tired of tolerating? If you really pay attention, |
| 1:41.3 | there are things in your life that are constantly triggering you. |
| 1:45.7 | Maybe they're little irritations or recurring frustrations. The things that you keep complaining about, |
| 1:52.8 | even if it's only to yourself. And usually, those things are in direct conflict with your values, |
| 1:59.6 | what you say matters, and what you're actually allowing or doing. |
| 2:03.9 | Here's the thing that most women don't realize. You don't get what you want in life. You get what you |
| 2:09.5 | tolerate. You get what you expect. And year after year of tolerating the same things doesn't just |
| 2:15.7 | create a pattern. It forms a self-image. |
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