471: Disappear for 24 Hours… and Become Unrecognizable
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 10 December 2025
⏱️ 12 minutes
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Summary
If you're ready to trade tired resolutions for a year that feels like a work of art, step inside the School of Self-Image for The Curated Year Workshop. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join
Every December, a mysterious entry appears on my calendar that simply says: UNAVAILABLE. No meetings. No calls. No exceptions. Those closest to me don't even ask anymore – they know I'm about to perform my annual disappearing act.
I've done this long enough now to know… Those 24 hours are one of the biggest reasons my life doesn't feel like the same year dressed up in different clothes.
Today, I want to tell you why I disappear for one day every year, what the holiday overwhelm is really costing you, and why giving yourself this kind of space can completely change your self-image and the year ahead.
Here's what we cover:
• Why stepping away for 24 intentional hours can break the cycle of repeating the same year
• How distance, rest, beauty, and new environments create clarity
• The difference between default goals and vision-led goals rooted in desire and honesty
• How curation (reflecting, imagining, and choosing) reshapes both your year and identity
• Why most women stay stuck in loops and how pausing helps you see new possibilities
• How designing your year like a masterpiece leads you to become the woman you want to be
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| 0:00.0 | If you open my calendar in December, you'd see a mysterious block of time that simply says |
| 0:05.8 | unavailable. No meetings, no calls, no plans. And everyone knows exactly what it means. Tanya has |
| 0:14.3 | disappeared. And I've done this long enough now to know those 24 hours are one of the biggest |
| 0:20.0 | reasons that my life doesn't feel like the same |
| 0:22.5 | year dressed up in different clothes. So today, I want to tell you why I disappear and why giving |
| 0:28.2 | yourself this kind of space can completely change your self-image and make you unrecognizable. |
| 0:35.7 | Welcome to the School of Self-image, where our motto is simple. Elevate your self-image, |
| 0:41.3 | elevate your life. I'm Tanya Lee, your hostess, and I'll guide you to become the woman who doesn't |
| 0:46.2 | just dream bigger. She lives bigger. Let's dive in. Hey friends, welcome back to my channel and to today's episode. For years, and I mean years, |
| 0:59.6 | my December's all had the same flavor, overwhelmed and overcommitted. I was so busy trying to make |
| 1:07.3 | everyone else's season feel magical that I often forgot about me. And my goals for |
| 1:12.9 | the year weren't really goals. They were habits. They were default answers. I had repeated so many |
| 1:18.9 | times that they didn't even feel alive anymore. And every year around, I don't know, December 28th, |
| 1:25.4 | I'd have this moment where I'd ask myself, okay, Tanya, |
| 1:28.5 | what do you want next year? And the same old answer would pop up. And it was usually some variation |
| 1:34.1 | of lose weight, try harder, get it together. My answers were a reaction to what was versus really |
| 1:43.8 | envisioning what could be. I was starting my year off with the same |
| 1:47.9 | brain that had just rushed through an entire month. But here's the truth. Trying to set meaningful |
| 1:53.6 | goals in that kind of state was like trying to hear my voice in a room full of loud music and |
| 1:59.8 | people talking. My desires were there. I just could not hear |
| 2:04.6 | them. I was just going through the motions versus curating my year on purpose. And then one year, |
| 2:11.6 | I heard something that would forever change me. It stopped me in my tracks. It was this, if you don't step back from your life, |
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