472: The Real Reason You Keep Self-Sabotaging (and How to Stop)
The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 21 August 2025
⏱️ 29 minutes
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Summary
Why do we do the very things that keep us stuck? Whether it's falling off a new routine, pulling away from a great relationship, or creating drama when things are finally going well, self-sabotage can show up in so many ways, and it's incredibly frustrating.
In this episode, I'm breaking down what self-sabotage really is, why it happens, and how to shift out of it using the Adult Chair model. You'll learn how to identify the unconscious parts driving the behavior and how to reparent those parts with compassion, so you can finally get out of your own way and start living the life you truly want.
In this episode, you'll hear:
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What self-sabotage really looks like (and how to spot it)
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Common reasons we sabotage things we care about
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A simple way to uncover and heal the part behind the pattern
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Come join me live for my brand new event, September 12th through 14th in Boone, North Carolina, |
| 0:09.1 | at the Art of Living Retreat Center. I am thrilled to announce this event. If you're someone that |
| 0:15.8 | is looking to end overwhelm and truly resolve it, to wipe out your stress, to find your purpose and why you're |
| 0:24.5 | here, how to live again with joy. Perhaps you're someone that lives with chronic self-talk |
| 0:32.5 | that is not supportive. Maybe you're someone that wants relationship help. Let me tell you what. Throughout the course |
| 0:39.3 | of this live event, you're going to learn how to do all of those things and more. The name of the |
| 0:44.1 | event is learning to live a soul-aligned life. And in this event, you're going to learn how to do |
| 0:50.0 | my version of parts work, which is more spiritually based. You're going to learn how to work with your |
| 0:55.5 | triggers. You're going to learn how to improve all of your relationships. Because here's the thing, |
| 1:00.9 | the common denominator is you. And I'm going to help you align with your truest self. That's what I call |
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| 1:15.1 | Welcome to the Michelle Chalfant Show, the next evolution of the adult chair podcast. I am |
| 1:22.2 | Michelle Chalfant and my goal is to help you to awaken to your true self. |
| 1:28.6 | Together, we will break through your barriers so you can find your purpose and live a soul-aligned |
| 1:35.2 | life. |
| 1:36.4 | Each week, I will bring you powerful conversations with thought leaders, spiritual teachers, |
| 1:41.6 | healers, and change makers, along with actionable insights to help you |
| 1:46.0 | to transform your life from the inside out. Welcome to the Michelle Shelfon show. I am Michelle |
| 1:55.2 | Shelfon. As always, so happy to be here with you. Today I'm talking all about self-sabotage. Who does not know about that? |
| 2:03.3 | We all know about self-sabotage. So we need to talk about not only what it is. I think we all know |
| 2:09.4 | what it is, but more importantly, what do we do about it? How do we stop it from happening? |
| 2:13.9 | I'm going to give you, as you, as you know, you know my style, simple, simple, simple. I'm all about simple, |
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