465: I wish I could have fun without drinking [Listener Q&A]
Take a Break from Drinking
Rachel Hart
4.9 • 2.7K Ratings
🗓️ 21 April 2026
⏱️ 26 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever feel like you can't have fun at a bar or party without drinking? It can seem like alcohol is the thing that unlocks a more relaxed, confident, and fun version of yourself. And without it, maybe everything feels flat, awkward, or like something is missing.
In this Listener Q&A episode, we're unpacking the belief that alcohol is necessary for fun. For some, drinking often feels like the key to connection, confidence, and letting go. But what if alcohol isn't actually what creates that experience?
Tune in this week to learn why you might feel like alcohol is a requirement for having fun, what is actually blocking your ability to enjoy the moment, how focusing on the "right amount" of drinking keeps you stuck, and how to shift your attention to connect and engage socially without relying on alcohol.
Find a personalized approach that helps you change your habit in my new book, The Ultimate Guide to Drinking Less, here: https://rachelhart.com/guide/
Discover alternative approaches to drinking less inside our membership program, Take a Break: https://rachelhart.com/tab/
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| 0:00.0 | Have you ever watched someone at a bar or a party who isn't drinking, but they seem to be having a genuinely good time? |
| 0:08.0 | And you wondered, how are they having that much fun? |
| 0:11.7 | This is episode 465, and I'm answering a listener question about not wanting to miss out on the fun of drinking, why you keep drinking more than you planned, and the real |
| 0:22.2 | reason that you think alcohol makes you more fun. |
| 0:26.6 | Whether you want to drink less or stop drinking, this podcast will help you change the |
| 0:31.6 | habit from the inside out. We're challenging conventional wisdom about why people drink |
| 0:37.0 | and why it can be hard to resist temptation. |
| 0:40.4 | No labels, no judgment, just practical tools to take control of your desire and stop worrying about your drinking. |
| 0:48.2 | Now here's your host, Rachel Hart. |
| 0:55.3 | Here's the question that we got from a listener. |
| 0:57.8 | Rogan wrote, |
| 0:58.6 | Hi, Rachel. |
| 0:59.4 | First off, I love your work and I've learned to view my relationship with alcohol in such |
| 1:03.8 | a different way. |
| 1:05.2 | I don't feel the need to have drinks in every situation like I used to. |
| 1:08.7 | However, my main struggle is I'm a single girl in her 30s, |
| 1:12.7 | and I just really think going out to the bars and drinking is fun. But it's getting in the way of my |
| 1:19.2 | fitness goals and I'm spending a lot of money so I'd like to cut back. But at the same time, |
| 1:23.3 | I don't want to miss out on the fun of drinking. I wish I was one of those people who could go to the bars and still have fun without it or even just have one or two, but I typically end up drinking much more than planned. |
| 1:35.1 | If I go out and I don't drink, I find myself rather annoyed with people around me or even envious wishing I could drink, quote, normally. |
| 1:43.1 | I don't know if any of this makes sense, |
| 1:45.3 | but I would appreciate any thoughts that you have. Okay, Brugan, yes, I have lots of thoughts because |
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