460 Emotional Invalidation in Relationships: What You Need to Know
The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
4.9 • 1.5K Ratings
🗓️ 6 December 2022
⏱️ 23 minutes
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Summary
Have you ever confided in someone you wanted comfort from only to be told…
"It could be worse."
"At least it wasn't X, Y, or Z!"
"Look on the bright side…"
"I don't know why you are making such a big deal…"
These are all examples of emotional invalidation.
Maybe you've even said these things to others, unintentionally invalidating them. This is common if we're high-functioning codependents and other people's distress causes us distress.
But even if your heart is in the right place, emotional invalidation can damage your relationships.
That's why in today's episode, I'm breaking down what emotional invalidation is, discussing why so many of us are emotional invalidators and offering ways to emotionally validate our loved ones so that we can strengthen our relationships.
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| 0:00.0 | Well, hello, and welcome to this episode of the Terry Cole show that I want to start with the question. |
| 0:05.2 | Have you ever told someone or friend something that was hurt your feelings, a situation that you were in and they said, |
| 0:12.4 | well, at least it's not this, or it could be worse because of this. |
| 0:18.0 | Anybody or maybe you're the person who does that to others when they're complaining about something or if they're telling you something |
| 0:23.7 | that's hurtful, that maybe your hard core looking for that silver lining, even though to do so, |
| 0:30.0 | is emotionally invalidating to the other person. |
| 0:33.4 | And that is exactly what I'm going to be covering in today's episode. |
| 0:37.6 | What is emotional invalidation? |
| 0:40.0 | Why would do it and how to stop it? |
| 0:41.7 | Because that is what we want to know. |
| 0:43.6 | I always take a moment at the top of this to say, thank you so much for being here because I so appreciate you. |
| 0:50.8 | There are so many other podcasts that are great that you could be listening to right now, but the fact that you are |
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| 1:21.3 | Well, thank you, bitty. |
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| 1:26.4 | All right, let's move into today's episode. |
| 1:39.8 | This is the Terry Cole show. |
| 1:41.4 | And as you might have guessed, I'm your host, Terry Cole, for over two and a half decades, |
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