You know that sinking feeling you get in your stomach when it seems like someone is overwhelmed by you?

When someone tells you that you're being too sensitive, you're being too needy, when they feel like you're just taking things too seriously, right?

When they say, wow, you communicate a lot or like, oh, you got a lot of opinions.

That fear of being, quote unquote, too much is one that I

have found to be so common among my clients. And I think that it is a really small, insidious thought

that holds us back from really living into the true, like, size and scope that our lives could

have. So on today's episode, I want to talk about

this fear of being too much, where it comes from, how it gets weaponized against particularly

women or people from other marginalized communities, and how we can start changing our thinking

to embrace our full whole selves and to build our faith that there's room in the world for us the way we are. Let's get

into it. Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowenthal, master certified coach,

and founder of the School of New Feminist Thub. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety,

turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms,

one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

So I don't know about you, but the feeling that I was like too much was pervasive throughout my whole life until I found coaching really. And it often didn't even have a

clear definition, right? It was a phrase that I used to describe the feeling that some people

found me too intense or that I had too many needs or that I had too many desires or that I was loud or that I had a

big personality or that I wanted too much, right? It was like this sort of all-purpose phrase

that could just apply to so many areas of my life. And that's kind of by design because

socializing women to fear being quote unquote too much is really effective

because of its vagueness. Because we don't even really know what it means. We just know that we've

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