452: You Yelled... Now What? How to Repair and Reconnect // Devon Kuntzman

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🗓️ 20 October 2025

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

We all lose our temper sometimes. That’s part of being human—and part of being a mom. But what happens next matters most. Because repair, not perfection, is what builds real trust with our kids. In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Devon Kuntzman from Transforming Toddlerhood to talk about one of the most healing and hopeful skills a parent can learn: how to reconnect after those hard moments. Devon shares a simple, four-step framework for circling back after we’ve yelled or overreacted—so instead of getting stuck in guilt, we can model accountability, empathy, and growth. Even though Devon primarily teaches parents of toddlers, this conversation applies beautifully to kids of all ages (trust me—my teen and tween are proof!). In this episode, you’ll learn: 💜 The one phrase that instantly shifts your apology from surface-level to deeply connecting 💜 Why skipping this often-forgotten step in your apology can actually keep your child from trusting you fully 💜 A powerful, brain-based reason to “redo” the moment—and how this single practice can help you yell less over time You’ll walk away with words you can use, steps you can remember, and a renewed sense of grace for yourself as a beautifully human mom. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: ☀️ Want to feel lighter in your motherhood? My mini course Motherhood Decluttered will help you simplify what’s weighing you down and reconnect with what really matters. For a limited time, your purchase includes a buddy pass so you can go through the course with a friend. Related Episodes: 004: How to Stop Yelling at your Kids // Ralphie Jacobs of Simply on Purpose 423: How to Parent a Strong-Willed Child Without Losing Your Mind // Kirk Martin 440: Tools for Parenting a “Spicy” Child // Mary Van Geffen Episode Sponsors: Skylight Calendar: Right now, Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to MySkylight.com/TAKEAWAYS Factor Meals: Eat smart at FactorMeals.com/3in3050off and use code 3in3050off for 50% off your first box, plus Free Breakfast for 1 Year. Get delicious, ready-to-eat meals delivered—with Factor. Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

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0:00.0	You're listening to 3 and 30 Takeways for Moms, and this episode is sponsored by Skylight Calendar,
0:05.1	the smart calendar that helps get the whole family organized with chore charts, dinner planning,
0:09.9	and customizable lists all on one sleek touchscreen display.
0:14.5	Fall sports are crazy for our family, and it's easy to feel overwhelmed.
0:19.1	Between team practices, carpools, and weekend tournaments,
0:22.5	I sometimes feel like my toughest opponent is my own schedule. If you feel that way, too,
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0:50.9	need to get done between their games and events. Think of it like your
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1:31.4	Thank you. Y-I-G-H-T dot com slash takeaways. Welcome to 3-N-30, a podcast to help you feel more like yourself within your motherhood.
1:37.0	Each 30-minute episode features three actionable takeaways to help you become a more self-assured
1:42.0	mom, someone who knows yourself, honors your needs,
1:45.4	and loves your people. Listen in to feel encouraged as we learn together how to overcome overwhelm
1:51.4	and find more magic in motherhood. I'm your host, Rachel Nielsen. I'm so glad you're here.
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