45. Are you a People Pleaser
The Highly Sensitive Person Podcast
Kelly
4.8 • 676 Ratings
🗓️ 17 June 2015
⏱️ 7 minutes
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Summary
“Sure, I can work late tonight." “Yeah, you can crash at my place.” “I can babysit, no problem.” “I can lend you some money.”
These are things a people pleaser might say. People pleasers take on too much and don't know when to say "no". Their desire to please others and be seen as important and helpful can lead to overwhelm and resentment.
Today, I talk about why people have a have time saying No and some ways to stop being a pushover.
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| 0:00.0 | This is the highly sensitive person podcast, a weekly podcast for people who experience the world brighter, louder, and more intensely. |
| 0:11.3 | Join me on a journey of acceptance of our highly sensitive person traits. |
| 0:17.5 | Welcome to episode 45. I'm your host, Kelly. |
| 0:21.6 | In this, the highly sensitive person podcast, I share personal stories and advice and |
| 0:27.6 | sometimes rants about what it's like to have sensory processing sensitivity. |
| 0:32.6 | Being a highly sensitive person doesn't mean that you're weird or wrong. You just experience the |
| 0:38.9 | world intensely. I recently received an email from a listener who had a suggestion for a podcast |
| 0:45.8 | topic. This is what she wrote. One of the things I struggle with the most is becoming overwhelmed |
| 0:52.1 | and stressed by trying to meet the high expectations of |
| 0:55.1 | society and family. Often this comes in the form of things like attending every family |
| 1:00.3 | gathering or meeting every request for help. Many of these things can be small and insignificant |
| 1:05.7 | individually, but they really add up when taken together. I feel like everyone wants a piece of me |
| 1:10.7 | and I don't have any left over for myself. |
| 1:13.0 | Or I feel guilty if I say no and don't do something that's asked of me. |
| 1:17.5 | Thank you for sending this email. |
| 1:20.6 | It sounds like she's talking about having a hard time saying no, being a people pleaser. |
| 1:25.8 | And she's also kind of talking about family issues, |
| 1:28.4 | but I'm going to focus on the people pleaser part today. People pleasing is especially common |
| 1:34.5 | in women who are often raised in condition to put others' needs ahead of their own, to take care |
| 1:39.5 | of other people, and to seek the approval and love of others by acting this way. By putting everyone else's needs before your own, you feel needed, helpful, and valuable. |
| 1:50.0 | Not wanting to say no is often based on the approval and validation that you want from others, |
| 1:56.0 | like family members. |
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