Hello, beautiful beans and welcome to your podcast episode of today.

And today we are talking about victimhood and playing the victim.

And I'm going to talk about the difference between being a victim of something that happened to you

versus making being a victim part of your identity, what that

looks like because sometimes it can be a bit blurry and there's many kinds of victimhood that

you can fall into and how it can really negatively impact your life because like I said,

I will break down the difference, but there is a huge difference between this thing has happened to me. It's really negatively impacted my life in these areas,

and now I need to kind of like heal, stop, reflect, do all those things. That is valid. But then

there's the kind of victimhood that we fall into that becomes such an ingrained part of

our identity that then even once we've kind of healed to an extent,

we hold on to that victimhood as part of our identity and we carry it with us as part of our

narrative and then it actually stops us, it slows us down, it closes us off, it doesn't allow us

to totally heal, it doesn't allow us to put ourselves out there again.

And it doesn't allow us to like kind of break into the new version of ourselves that we really

would love to be because we're so attached to this is being part of our identity. And without it,

what would our identity be? Okay. I'm going to give you very specific examples of this so you

can really identify within yourself or even with other people.

So you can really know what that looks like.

And if you are someone that's like, I feel like I have been playing the role of the victim and now it's causing me to be a victim to my own circumstances.

Like this role has now made it worse for me.

How the fuck do I snap out of it? You're in the right place.

That's what we're going to talk about today. Now, life update. I feel like the life updates

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