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3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

444: The Four Tendencies in Motherhood // Sarah Joslin

3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms

Cloud10

Kids & Family, Society & Culture, How To, Personal Journals, Education, Parenting

52.3K Ratings

🗓️ 25 August 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever wondered why it’s so hard to stick to goals that matter to you, but you can follow through easily when someone else is counting on you? Or why one of your children seems to resist every rule, while another lives for structure and routine? This week’s guest, Sarah Joslin, walks us through a personality framework that has the power to transform the way we see ourselves and our kids. Based on The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin, this simple but powerful model explains how we each respond to expectations—and how we can use that understanding to build better routines, boundaries, and relationships in our homes. In this episode, you’ll hear: 🫶 How understanding your own patterns can help you stop self-sabotaging and start making aligned choices 🫶 What might be happening beneath the surface when your child resists your requests or breaks down over structure 🫶 The surprising reason one-size-fits-all parenting strategies rarely work... and what to do instead Whether you’ve taken The Four Tendencies Quiz or this is your first introduction to the concept, this conversation is a helpful, judgment-free starting point for anyone who wants to show up with more clarity and compassion for themselves and the people they love most. For full show notes, including takeaways, click here. *** Announcements: 📣 Click here for Sarah's handout that will summarize The 4 Tendencies and how they look in motherhood. 📣 The doors to the annual SAM Program will be opening in a couple of weeks! Join the waitlist to receive the best discount when doors open in September! 📣 Want to join SAM, but finances make that impossible? We're offering full and partial scholarships for the Self-Assured Motherhood program, and applications are open now through August 29th. Related Episodes: 426: What to Do When You Don’t Like Your Kid (Even Though You Love Them!) 368: Using the Enneagram to Improve our Relationships // Kelsey Lincoln 314: How to Feel like Yourself in Motherhood // Aleisha McKean Episode Sponsors: BetterHelp: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms is sponsored by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/3in30 to get 10% off your first month of online therapy. AirDoctorPro: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code 3IN30 to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money-back guarantee and a free 3-year warranty—an $84 value! Let's Connect! Join me on Instagram! Get weekly-ish emails with BTS of my life Find Your Magic in Motherhood: Free 3-Day Email Course ***

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to 3 in 30, a podcast to help you feel more like yourself within your motherhood.

0:09.3

Each 30-minute episode features three actionable takeaways to help you become a more self-assured mom,

0:15.2

someone who knows yourself, honors your needs, and loves your people.

0:19.9

Listen in to feel encouraged as we learn together how to overcome overwhelm and find more

0:24.7

magic in motherhood.

0:26.1

I'm your host, Rachel Nielsen.

0:27.9

I'm so glad you're here.

0:34.6

Have you ever set a goal for yourself, something you really wanted, and then found yourself

0:39.1

procrastinating, abandoning it altogether, or only sticking with it when someone else was

0:44.0

counting on you? If so, today's episode might offer the insight you didn't know you needed.

0:49.2

I'm thrilled to be joined by longtime Sam's sister and thoughtful mother, Sarah Jocelyn,

0:53.8

who recently taught a class

0:55.6

at my self-assured motherhood retreat about one of my favorite personality frameworks,

1:00.6

the four tendencies by Gretchen Rubin. This framework explains how we each respond to expectations,

1:07.3

both the expectations placed on us by others and the expectations we place on ourselves.

1:13.5

Understanding this about ourselves can be a game changer, especially in motherhood.

1:17.9

As Sarah puts it, learning her tendency helped her stop seeing herself as someone who just couldn't

1:23.3

follow through and start seeing the why behind her behavior, which gave her the clarity and the

1:28.8

compassion to begin shifting in ways that felt important to her. Whether you're someone who thrives

1:34.2

on structure, resists any kind of pressure, constantly questions the rules or always puts

1:39.8

others' needs above your own. There's something in this conversation for you. And if you want a written

1:44.5

recap of some of what Sarah shares in the episode today about Gretchen Rubin's Four Tendencies

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