Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

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Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners

and coach you from afar.

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Let's get into this week's questions.

It's our first question. It says, Hi, Kara. I've made a ton of progress on thought work, but my brain is tricky. Aren't they all? That's what I would say. Okay. She says, I know I want something else, quote unquote, something bigger. I have a feeling I could do more. But all of a sudden I'm plagued with indecision about what I thought I wanted and it gets unclear. I think perhaps this is an

excuse, but not sure how to begin to work through it. Where to start. Okay, so I picked this because

this is just such a great example of how we let our brains turn us around and get totally

confused. And one of the things I really want you all to think about in your own self-coaching

is that the vaguer and more general you are, the less you will have any idea what's going on.

So like, sometimes people come to me for coaching and they're like, well, I want to work on my

compassion for myself or my self-esteem or my, I don't think I'm worthy enough. And I'm like,

yeah, you and me and everyone else on the planet. Right. We actually can't work on it on this like

general level because it lends itself so easily to just whirling around in confusion.

So when you tell yourself like, I want to do something

bigger, I could do something more, but then I don't know what that thing is. It's like you're living in

this land of vagueness and confusion, and you're never going to get anywhere from there.

It's not even that it's an excuse because you don't even know what you're asking yourself, right?

You're just operating at like the 70,000 foot level. And so what I do when I'm coaching someone, right, is, and they're like, well, I want to work on my like self-esteem. I'm like, great. What's the last mean thought you had about yourself specifically? What was happening? What was the thought you had? The same thing here. It is not

going to be helpful for you to think in these vague terms. You need to get concrete. So you need to

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