442: Regulation is the New Discipline
School of Self-Image
Tonya Leigh
4.8 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 21 May 2025
⏱️ 24 minutes
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Summary
Emotional Regulation: The New Discipline for a Chaotic World
Emotional regulation has become an essential skill for personal growth and success, especially in today's fast-paced and often chaotic world. The ability to manage one's emotional responses, rather than attempting to control external circumstances, is crucial for effectively navigating life's challenges.
Tonya Leigh explores the crucial concept of emotional regulation in today's fast-paced and divisive world. Tonya emphasizes that instead of trying to control external circumstances, our true power lies in managing our emotional responses. She begins with a personal check-in, encouraging listeners to assess their feelings on a scale from zero to ten.
Despite facing significant challenges, including her father's illness and business setbacks, Tonya shares how her commitment to self-work has helped her maintain a positive outlook, rating her emotional state as a nine. The episode highlights the importance of nurturing our nervous systems and offers insights into overcoming fear of the future.
Tune in for valuable strategies on how to cultivate emotional resilience and thrive in turbulent times.
Talking Points:
00:44 - Self-Check: How Are You Feeling?
02:09 - Fear of the Future and Self-Image
04:45 - Understanding Self-Image and State of Being
08:42 - Subconscious Blocks and Self-Image
11:51 - External Control vs. Internal Regulation
15:01 - Self-Soothing and Mothering Yourself
18:44 - Regulation in Entrepreneurship
22:42 - New You, New Nervous System
23:14 - Join the School of Self-Image
Quotes:
"Regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times."
"If you don't decide on purpose, if you don't take ownership of that, you are going to have a very dysregulated nervous system."
"A lot of us are just walking around as children in adult bodies."
"When you start becoming this person for yourself, you will be amazed at what you're capable of."
"I'm going to be the one that changes. That's when miracles happen."
"When you can regulate your nervous system and you don't freak out, when you have that ability to just take a pause, go in, take some breaths, calm yourself down, remind yourself, I'm safe in this moment."
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Something has become so clear to me, especially in the world we're living in. |
| 0:06.3 | Emotional regulation is the new discipline. |
| 0:10.0 | Because let's face it, we're living in a world that demands instant reactions and it seems |
| 0:14.9 | like there's divisiveness everywhere. |
| 0:17.4 | And if you're not careful, you will spend your energy trying to control the world where your |
| 0:22.7 | real superpower is in learning how to emotionally manage yourself. And that's what we're |
| 0:27.6 | talking about on today's episode. So let's dive in. |
| 0:33.3 | Welcome to the School of Self Image, where personal development meets style. |
| 0:38.4 | Here's your hostess, Master Life Coach, Tanya Lee. |
| 0:42.4 | Hey, friends, how are you feeling? |
| 0:46.0 | I want to start this episode out with us all doing a check-in. |
| 0:49.7 | Just take a deep breath and see how you're feeling. |
| 0:53.3 | And let's do it on a scale of zero to 10. |
| 0:55.2 | Zero being, I just want to go back to bed and wait for another day. |
| 1:00.6 | 10 being the best you have ever felt. Where are you on the scale right now? |
| 1:06.8 | I'm going to give myself a solid 9. Not quite a 10, but I am feeling really good. |
| 1:13.9 | And I'm feeling good because of a lot of the work that I've been doing on myself over the last |
| 1:20.6 | months. These have not been easy months. If I looked outside of me, I would have all of the reasons to be a two or a three. |
| 1:31.6 | My dad is very, very sick. We've had some business issues. It just seems like I've had one |
| 1:39.4 | obstacle after another. And yet, here I am feeling like a nine today. And the secret is that |
| 1:48.2 | I've learned to regulate my nervous system. I told my team the other day, I'm like, |
| 1:55.2 | regulation is the new discipline because we are living in some wild times. A lot of the conversations that I'm |
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