#441 Why Your Ex Moved On So Fast (And How You Can Too)
Love, Happiness and Success with Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
4.6 • 849 Ratings
🗓️ 17 February 2025
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.
By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:
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Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)
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The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new
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What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)
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How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing
Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You
I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too.
I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️
Xoxo
P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Picture this. You're lying in bed at 2 a.m. scrolling through your phone through the |
| 0:13.3 | hundredth time when suddenly there it is. The post that stops your heart. It is your ex and they're looking happier than ever, |
| 0:25.2 | but someone new is in the picture. And according to the caption, they are living their best life. |
| 0:32.0 | Meanwhile, you are still wearing their old t-shirt to bed and can barely make it through the day |
| 0:37.0 | without crying |
| 0:37.6 | in the bathroom at work, what to do when your ex has moved on, apparently, and you have not. |
| 0:46.0 | You didn't realize. |
| 0:50.5 | Oh, you're going to miss me, baby. |
| 0:53.7 | Oh, you're going to miss me, baby. Oh, you're going to miss me, baby. |
| 0:57.0 | Oh, you're going to miss me, shy. |
| 0:59.8 | Yeah, yeah. |
| 1:02.9 | I'm Dr. Lisa Marie-Bobby. |
| 1:04.9 | This is love, happiness, and success. |
| 1:07.6 | The song we're listening to today is, |
| 1:10.0 | You're going to miss me by the 13th floor |
| 1:12.2 | elevators. And I chose that for us because I think it captures something. Many of us wish we |
| 1:16.7 | could feel what an ex seems to move on as fast as they can, which is, we want them to feel |
| 1:23.8 | like they're making a mistake. They're losing out on us. But instead, you're probably feeling like the one who made the mistake, wondering how they could |
| 1:31.0 | possibly be so okay if you're still so devastated. And today, we're going to talk about this. |
| 1:38.3 | I am going to share with you why it can seem like people move on quickly, but what's really going on underneath the |
| 1:47.3 | surface, because the thing to know is that what looks like, air quote, moving on, often is |
| 1:53.8 | not what it seems. And by the end of today's episode, you'll understand why your ex seems |
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