438: Holiday Special: How to Make Peace with Your Past
The Adult Chair
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 26 December 2024
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
You’re here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become.
It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past.
Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change.
Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it.
But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now.
In this show, I’m giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment.
You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret.
Listen to discover:
- 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them)
- Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality
- How to reframe how you think about your past
- 6 ways to make peace with your past
Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn’t spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today?
The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in.
It's here that we find peace and joy. It’s here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.
“The decision that we made in that moment, I don’t care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant
“97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Things that happened in our past, no matter if it’s a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it’s possible.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we live in the moment, it’s a much different reality. It’s almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant
“What I’m giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we don’t feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we block our emotions, we’re blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant
“Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant
“When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It’s like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant
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| 0:00.0 | Happy New Year. I hope that you had a lovely holiday season and you are ready for the new year. |
| 0:09.9 | 2025 is here, my friends. I've got something for you. I have my courses, live interactive teachings with myself and with spiritual teachers for you for $1. Yes, |
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| 0:43.0 | place to come that will help you to remember who you truly are so you can live authentically |
| 0:50.4 | with greater peace. This place helps you get unstuck. It teaches you how to transform |
| 0:57.4 | your life. So much happens in the academy in a month, but you get all the previous months plus the |
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| 1:10.4 | New Year 1. That's all caps, New Year and then number |
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| 1:26.0 | Hi, I'm Michelle Chalfant, psychotherapist, holistic life coach, and human, just like you, |
| 1:32.3 | learning to navigate life challenges. With over 25 years' experience, I teach people how to get |
| 1:38.0 | healthy using the adult chair model. The adult chair model is where simple psychology |
| 1:43.0 | meets grounded spirituality, and it teaches |
| 1:46.0 | us how to become healthy adults. From anxiety and depression to codependency and relationship issues, |
| 1:53.1 | you can use the adult chair for just about anything. Each week, I share practical tips, |
| 1:59.4 | tools and advice from myself and a wide range of experts on |
| 2:03.3 | how to get unstuck, how to live authentically, and how to truly love yourself, all while |
| 2:09.0 | sitting in your adult chair. Welcome to the Adult Chair podcast. Hello, my friends, and happy, happy holiday. I hope everyone has had a wonderful and safe |
| 2:24.0 | holiday season. Can you believe it? Like, we're just about done. Almost done with the entire |
| 2:30.3 | month of December. It's like we go for months and months and months, |
| 2:40.5 | preparing, getting ready, stress, drama, all the things. Lots of happiness, too. And then, boom, it's like over. So I hope everyone's having a beautiful day today. And yeah, we're talking |
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