437: High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole
The Adult Chair
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 19 December 2024
⏱️ 58 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we’re exploring the world of high-functioning codependency with our guest, Terri Cole. This isn't your typical chat about codependency; Terri's giving it a fresh spin, especially for those of us who juggle a million things and still find time to care a little too much about everyone else's problems.
Terri breaks down how high-functioning codependents — often the go-getters and perfectionists among us — end up sacrificing their own well-being. Sound familiar? We get into the nitty-gritty of societal norms, early family expectations, and how these can set the stage for burnout. But luckily, Terri has strategies to help us break free from these patterns and set healthy boundaries.
Terri shares how to foster real connections without feeling like you have to manage everyone else's life. If you’re ready to transform your relationships and reclaim your personal freedom, you won’t want to miss this chat.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The origins and societal pressures contributing to high-functioning codependency.
- Strategies for overcoming self-abandonment and shifting from external validation to internal peace.
- The importance of setting boundaries and recognizing unhealthy patterns in relationships.
- The difference between guilt and shame and the impact of societal upbringing on codependency.
- Resources for fostering genuine connections and achieving personal freedom.
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https://www.terricole.com/HFC/
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| 0:00.0 | Hi, I'm Michelle Chalfant, psychotherapist, holistic life coach, and human, just like you, learning to navigate life challenges. |
| 0:11.7 | With over 25 years' experience, I teach people how to get healthy using the adult chair model. |
| 0:17.5 | The adult chair model is where simple psychology meets grounded spirituality, and it teaches |
| 0:22.9 | us how to become healthy adults. From anxiety and depression to codependency and relationship issues, |
| 0:29.8 | you can use the adult chair for just about anything. Each week, I share practical tips, |
| 0:36.3 | tools and advice from myself and a wide range of experts |
| 0:39.9 | on how to get unstuck, how to live authentically, and how to truly love yourself, all while |
| 0:45.8 | sitting in your adult chair. Welcome to the Adult Chair podcast. Hello, my friends. Hello, hello. What a show. What a show. What a show. I was going to tell you, |
| 1:02.2 | I feel like I've been enlightened by Terry Cole tonight. We had an incredible show. We talked all |
| 1:09.5 | about high functioning codependency. And I just got to tell you |
| 1:16.6 | something. It was a, I just, you're going to love the show. Let me just say that. It is shocking to me. |
| 1:23.3 | You know what I love about the show? She has updated the term codependency. |
| 1:30.6 | You know, codependency, that term has been around since the 70s. |
| 1:34.4 | It needed an update and she has done it and she has done it beautifully. |
| 1:40.2 | We talked about the fact that we're raised to be codependent. |
| 1:41.0 | Yeah. |
| 1:42.5 | Wait to hear the show. |
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