A motto normativity was coined by Dr Elizabeth Brake to describe the societal pressure to pursue a romantic sexual long-term

monogamous relationship, especially marriage and the assumption

that everyone wants the same thing. In her writings she uses the term to point out how

this assumption minimizes and invalidates people who don't fit that one mold, such as

asexual, a romantic, or non-monogamous people, and causes us to treat single people as incomplete

and somehow lacking.

So something for us to think about, I think that's one of the big takeaways from this episode

is just reminding ourselves that we are told over and over again that this is the way in which relationship should happen.

This is what we should be seeking.

This is what matters.

And that if you don't have this, you also don't necessarily matter as much as people who have this or who are seeking it do.

So I think that's a cultural paradigm that I hope all of us can shift away from ultimately because it is really

hurtful and harmful to a lot of people.

Welcome to the Multiamari Podcast. I'm Jace. I'm Emily and I'm

Dettaker. We believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the

status quo of the past. Whether you're monogamous, polyamorous, swinging, casually dating,

or if you just do relationships differently,

we see you and we're here for you. Fongs I know I did.

Force and made up for myself to fit.

On this episode of the multi-ammery podcast,

we're talking about a-romantic relationships. Many of us are aware of asexuality, but did you know that

there are people out there who consider themselves a romantic as well? Today we're going to talk about

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