#435: Mastering Communication & Conflict: Skills That Will Change Your Relationship & Life with Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

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4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 10 February 2025

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Effective communication is the foundation of every strong relationship, yet so many of us struggle to truly be heard and understood. Renowned relationship experts and authors Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt return to share their groundbreaking insights on how dialogue can transform the way we connect. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: The Practice of Safe Conversations, they break down the power of Imago Dialogue, the role of safety in communication, and why curiosity is the key to bridging differences. From deepening intimacy in romantic relationships to fostering understanding in a divided world, this conversation is packed with powerful tools to help you listen, connect, and create lasting change in the way you relate to others. Harville Hendrix Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt Ph.D. are co-creators of Imago Relationship Therapy and a social movement called Safe Conversations. Internationally respected as couple's therapists, educators, speakers, activists, and New York Times bestselling authors, their 10 books, including the timeless classic, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, have sold more than 4 million copies. Harville appeared on the Oprah Winfrey television program 17 times! Helen was installed in the Women’s Hall of Fame and the Smithsonian Institute. They have six children and eight grandchildren. —Harville & Helen’s Previous Episode: https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love/ —Harville & Helen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/ —Harville & Helen’s Website: https://harvilleandhelen.com/ —Harville & Helen’s Website | Safe Conversations: https://quantumconnections.com —Harville & Helen’s Website | Imago Relationship: https://imagorelationships.org/ —Harville & Helen’s Book: How to Talk with Anyone about Anything: https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. https://createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —IIN: Use code MARKGROVES20 for 20% off ALL courses from IIN & Chopra at http://bit.ly/MARKIIN —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to another episode of the Mark Groves podcast. So last year, one of my top
0:05.3	episodes of the whole year was with Harville Hendricks and Helen Hunt, which makes a lot of sense
0:10.6	because they are like the godfather and godmother of relational education and just, they're such
0:16.7	paradigm shifters in the way we see love and what's possible. And their book, their best-selling
0:21.8	authors of many books, but their one book had such a deeply profound impact on me, and that's
0:26.8	getting the love you want. Such a powerful book. It changed the way I saw relationships. I look
0:32.1	back at my history and those choices made sense. And in the last episode with them, which you
0:37.4	could check out, and we'll put the link in the last episode with them, which you could check out,
0:38.3	and we'll put the link in the show notes,
0:40.3	was just so profound.
0:41.8	It walks through all of that and I mean,
0:44.3	it's going to make you want more and more and more of them,
0:46.3	which is why I got more of them right here.
0:49.3	They're the creators of this process that's called Amago Dialogue.
0:53.3	Amago Dialogue is this sort of structured way at first
0:56.6	of having conversations where there's some agreements and mechanisms that are put into place
1:03.1	that any couple who is prone to dysregulation and disruption and shutdown and criticism and
1:09.8	defensiveness, any couple can learn this
1:12.0	process and actually retrain each other's nervous systems. It's great to have someone guide you
1:17.4	through the process first because you kind of need a little bit of a referee because I know how you
1:21.5	can get and I can get too. So what this process does though is it teaches you how to dialogue, how to listen and how to
1:29.4	communicate, how to get clarity, etc. And so they recently just wrote another book. And that book
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