#434: The Art of Asking the Right Questions in Love with Lindsay Jill Roth

The Mark Groves Podcast

Mark Groves

Education, Relationships, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture

4.9 • 5K Ratings

🗓️ 3 February 2025

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Author and producer Lindsay Jill Roth joins the podcast and shares the journey behind her book, Romances & Practicalities, offering a fresh perspective on love and relationships. In this lively and heartfelt conversation, Lindsay reflects on how her personal experiences, from navigating romantic entanglements to embracing the unexpected, shaped her practical and humorous framework for understanding intimacy, trust, and vulnerability. Together we explore her insights on fostering deeper connections, breaking free from inherited relationship patterns, and the transformative power of curiosity and communication. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to approach love with authenticity, humor, and intentionality. Lindsay Jill Roth is an award-winning television and live-events producer who has created and developed a wide variety of programming globally, including original content for NBC, BET, ESPN, Food Network, Billboard, the Masters, the Grammys, the Tonys, and the US Open. She is the former producer of the Emmy-nominated Larry King Now and the creator and executive producer of Haylie Duff’s The Real Girl’s Kitchen. She is also the author of the novel What Pretty Girls Are Made Of. Lindsay lives in New York and London with her husband and two young sons. —Lindsay Jill Roth’s Book: Romances & Practicalities - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/romances-practicalities-lindsay-jill-roth?variant=42411287838754 —Lindsay Jill Roth’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lindsayjillroth/ —Lindsay Jill Roth’s Website: https://lindsayjillroth.com/ Resources: — Deepen your connections and spark meaningful conversations with the Create The Love card deck — designed to inspire self-reflection, vulnerability, and deeper intimacy in your relationships. Grab yours here: createthelove.com/getcards —Ready to transform your relationships? Download The Relationship Toolkit for free and learn the 5 essential skills to thrive in love and life! https://go.markgroves.com/relationship-toolkit-podcast —Ready to stop chasing emotionally unavailable people? Download your free guide to break the cycle and call in the relationship you crave: https://go.markgroves.com/unavailable-people-opt-in-podcast —Learn the connection between Attachment Styles, how it affects the Nervous System, AND how you can heal it: .https://go.markgroves.com/nervous-system-opt-in-podcast If you want to dive deeper into Mark’s content, search through every episode, find specific topics we’ve covered, and ask him questions, go to his Dexa page: https://ask.markgroves.com This episode is sponsored by: —Cozy Earth: Use code MARK for 40% off sitewide at http://www.cozyearth.com —Mighty Networks: Go to http://www.markgroves.com/mightynetworks to learn how you can create your own community! Contact us at [email protected] for sponsor product support, questions, comments, or just to say hello! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and welcome to the Mark Groves podcast. I remember hearing years ago this quote that human
0:06.6	systems move in the direction of the questions we ask. So if we want to move into a better
0:11.9	direction, we have to ask better questions. And it really points to the importance of what
0:18.1	are we, where are we directing ourselves to? And are we asking the right
0:23.1	questions to get clarity, alignment, all that stuff. And that's why it's so important that the
0:27.6	questions we ask early in the relating process, for example, are questions that are going to
0:32.8	determine, is this person a match? And we're often afraid to ask questions that might make it so,
0:40.3	it becomes revealed that they're not aligned, right?
0:43.3	Which is ironic, right?
0:45.3	The whole point of dating is to figure out if someone's aligned,
0:48.3	yet we avoid the very conversations that might cause us to break apart
0:52.3	or not continue to move forward together.
0:55.5	We might not ask what someone is looking for because we're afraid that they're not looking
0:59.8	for what we're looking for.
1:01.4	We might be afraid to ask what's going on between us because we're afraid to push them away
1:05.6	from being too much, not realizing that this very important point of inquiry that will create safety so I can
1:12.8	open up further. I'm actually shoving down. I'm negating my own need for clarity in order to
1:20.9	maintain a connection. So I'm already in the people pleasing conflict avoidance part of relating
1:26.3	and we're just getting started so you know i really love
1:30.7	the interview that i have to share with you today from lindsay jill roth who wrote this incredible
1:36.9	book called romance and practicalities she is so funny you're going to absolutely love this episode
1:43.9	she tells the story that
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