Welcome back everybody. This is day 15 of the Squiggly Careers skill sprint. So you've done, you've done a lot of sprinting, but there are still more to go.

And the skill we are going to focus on today is about work life fit.

And we say work life fit rather than work life balance because I think this word balance just implies everything should be perfectly balanced.

Like that's the name of the game. That's what we're trying to do. And I don't know anyone who says,

oh, every day, everything is really in balance, you know, my hobbies, my friends, my work. Like,

I don't know, staying fit, eating the right things. You're like, that's way too much pressure.

And I think fit has

just always worked better, certainly for both of us, because I always feel like, oh, we're fitting

things together, sort of almost like a puzzle in the way that works for us. So I think just think

about how you frame this in a way that's useful. And I think two things to watch out for here

with kind of work life fit.

The first one is what scientists call enmeshment. And this is where basically you become your work.

So your identity is so wrapped up in the work that you do. You sort of don't exist outside of your

work, which sounds really dramatic, but I can think of specific

moments in my squiggly career where that has definitely happened to me. You know where you just feel

like you're getting up, you're working, you're going home, you're probably maybe doing a bit

more work, or maybe you're doing things in the evening that are work related, and then you're

sleeping, and then you're perhaps so tired from all the work you don't do you just don't

do a lot else and often it's where the kind of signals i think are where you're like cutting other

things out of your life maybe you're saying no to seeing friends or maybe your hobbies kind of go by

the wayside so emmeshment is kind of never never good for us our work work is usually worse, actually, when our work becomes

our identity. And then the second thing, which perhaps feels a bit less significant, is just this

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