And the thing is, it's exactly the same stimulation. It's the same sensation, but because the context is different, your perception of it is totally opposite.

Right, yeah, of course. And meanwhile, guys, we think that other people think like us, right? So we're like, well, touch the penis and we're good, right? Whereas with women, it's a little more. There's a little more to it, generally.

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Today we're talking with Emily Nagoski. She's the director of Wellness Education at Smith College and the author of the new bestselling book come as you are.

The surprising new science that will transform your sex life. This one's about sex in case you didn't guess from the title.

So make sure the kids aren't in the car for this one unless this is your way of outsourcing the birds and the bees talk.

We're going to talk about context sensitivity, the breaks and the accelerator in terms of sex and sexual relations with your significant other or with anyone for that matter.

And of course responsive desire in contrast to spontaneous desire orgasms what they are what they aren't and something called a rousal non-concordance, what general response means and what it doesn't mean.

There's a lot of stuff here that's really interesting. I found this one particularly enlightening. I won't tell you why but you'll have to listen and find out.

So enjoy this one with Emily Nagoski.

So tell me what you do in one sentence.

I teach people to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies and maximize their sexual potential.

All right. Interesting. So how did you get into that because lots of people have sex doesn't mean they're qualified to teach it.

Yeah. I started as an undergraduate peer health educator at the University of Delaware where I got trained to talk about condoms and contraception and safer sex and consent.

And I went into dorms and taught that stuff to my peers. And even though I was in the process of getting a degree in psychology with minors and cognitive science and philosophy.

And I had this plan to be a clinical neuropsychologist. I was going to work with people with traumatic brain injury and stroke.

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