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Lolly, how has it been difficult or has it sort of been a fairytale being in a mixed orientation marriage?

You know, we've had some struggles and I think that it would be very unfair to say that it's all been like butterflies and rainbows because that's not the case.

But honestly, I don't know what marriage doesn't go through its challenges, but I mean specifically to being involved in a mixed orientation marriage.

We've definitely had some struggles, but nothing that was even remotely considering like being a deal breaker.

It was when we came up to them, it was a challenge came, it was like, okay, let's get together, let's figure out how we're going to get through this.

And whenever we get through challenges, we always end up being stronger after it's all said and done like, okay, that was a rough time,

but it was never him against me or we were always united and trying to figure out, okay, this presents a unique situation to us.

What are we going to do about it? And I think that that comes to Josh tells me everything, like he comes, he talks to me, you know, about any concerns he has.

Anything, everything, our commute, yeah, that is a very important component of our relationship is perpetual, full disclosure always.

And I think it's a crucial element of how our marriage functions.

And I think one thing that I have done is, since we did have all those years of just being friends, sometimes when he talks to me about issues that are hard for me to hear,

I almost step back and I'm like, okay, I'm viewing this as your friend, Lollie, not your wife, Lollie.

And we're going to work through this together. And that helps me, like, to not get emotionally, like, hurt unnecessarily by something, if that makes sense.

Sure. So what I know about mixed orientation marriages is that some of the difficulties have to do with number one, making sex work and have it not be an unsatisfying experience for either of you.

Second is the same sex attracted partner, sometimes being attracted to other people, sometimes being unfaithful in the marriage.

And that type of thing, sometimes it's basic, you know, being deceptive and just getting along. So, have you had to deal with any of that stuff?

I think that's important. Like, one, the sex issue has not been an issue that has, like, it's not.

We've maintained and always had a good intimate relationship, which I know is not the case.

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