How often have you refrained from doing something out of fear that it might harm someone else?

You don't tell the truth so that you don't hurt someone's feelings.

You don't take on a leadership role at work because you don't want that responsibility.

What if something goes wrong?

What if the project fails?

What if the company loses money and they blame you?

You don't take a risk in your business because what

if it upsets a client or you have to fire an employee? You don't prescribe a more risky treatment for a

patient who isn't seeing success with other treatments because you can't guarantee that there won't be

bad side effects. Whatever kind of role you're in, if you've been socialized as a woman,

you've been socialized to avoid even the chance of harming anyone other than yourself, which you're often quite happy to harm, right?

But here's my most controversial take. Avoiding the possibility of ever harming anyone doesn't make you a good person. It just makes you delusional about your current impact on the world, and it causes you to hold yourself back and not have the positive impact that you could.

I'm going to explain why that is in this episode. Consider it a loving but tough loving reality

check, so buckle up. Welcome to unfuck your brain.

I'm your host, Kara Lowenthal, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New

Feminist Thub.

I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on

your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go. If you went to law school or you took

a philosophy class in college, you've probably been confronted with the trolley problem. In the

trolley problem, it's a thought experiment where a trolley is barreling down the tracks right

towards a bunch of people who are tied to the tracks. Let's say it's 10 people tied there. It's going to kill them if you don't do something. You can pull a

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