409. Coaching Hotline: Epigenetics, Jealousy & Suspicion
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.5K Ratings
🗓️ 29 July 2025
⏱️ 15 minutes
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Summary
In this week’s Coaching Hotline episode, I'm tackling a fascinating question about epigenetic trauma and how it intersects with thought work. I’m also answering a question from a listener whose ex-husband’s 20-year affair left her suspicious of her current partner. Both of these questions reveal how we let external circumstances—whether it’s scientific findings or past experiences—control our emotional lives. You’ll learn how to stop letting fear or past trauma dictate your decisions, how to manage relationship anxiety, and why trusting yourself is more important than putting your faith in outside forces.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live. |
| 0:21.3 | Let's go. |
| 0:24.8 | Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners |
| 0:31.2 | and coach you from afar. |
| 0:33.6 | If you want to submit your question for consideration, go to unfuck your brain.com forward slash |
| 0:39.5 | coaching hotline, all one word, or text your email to plus one 347-997-1784. |
| 0:48.0 | And when you get prompted for the code word, it's coaching hotline, all one word. |
| 0:52.6 | Let's get into this week's questions. |
| 0:55.7 | First question. Kara, I'm reading a profound book called My Grandmother's Hands by Resma Menacham. |
| 1:01.9 | Describe succinctly it's about racialized trauma and the science of healing our minds. |
| 1:05.6 | What are your thoughts in epigenetic trauma while also holding the thought that the past is only real in the way that our brain remembers it. So it's a great question. And actually that book is on my list. I have not read |
| 1:15.9 | that particular book. But my thought about epigenetic trauma is my thought about any other |
| 1:21.8 | scientific premise or diagnosis that we decide to put in the circumstance line. If somebody is prone to |
| 1:31.8 | depression or anxiety, I mean, that's a little vague to say prone, but what do we mean by that? It runs |
| 1:37.3 | in the family, right? They have a genetic predisposition. There are multiple people in their family |
| 1:42.5 | tree who have depression, you know, |
| 1:45.6 | symptoms or had anxiety. Or if somebody is prone to breast cancer, right? We would say like |
| 1:51.7 | statistics show that 64% of people with this gene mutation develop breast cancer by this age. |
| 1:57.9 | I have this gene mutation. There are plenty of things about our genetics or |
| 2:04.3 | background that do impact our daily life. And so I think about epigenetic trauma the same way. |
| 2:12.2 | Now, we don't have the same kind of specificity as being able to say like, oh, well, I have the |
| 2:17.5 | Brock O one gene, and so these are the statistics on the people with this gene. I can put that |
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