401: Perfectly Hidden Depression with Dr. Margaret Rutherford
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Lucas Rockwood
4.8 • 1.1K Ratings
🗓️ 4 March 2020
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
A close friend lost her husband tragically and suddenly, but she was back in the office just two weeks later. She shed a few tears that first month, but mostly, it was Beth as usual. She didn’t fall behind on any projects or ask for help.
“Beth is so strong. I think she can handle just about anything,” they said. Except they were wrong, and so was I.
Beth was mourning privately for months, and then deeply depressed for years following the accident. She’d kept it hidden. Hidden depression is not just common, it’s applauded; and I’m as guilty of this as anyone.
On this week’s podcast, you’ll meet a clinical psychologist whose recent work focuses on this growing mental health problem hidden from plain sight.
Listen & Learn
- How the “smile or die” positive attitude leads many of use to push down and cover up deep pain and emotions
- The difference between classic, clinical depression and the hidden type
- The personal and societal fallout that come from wearing an emotional mask for years or even a lifetime
- How the opposite of depression is engagement or connection - no happiness
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ABOUT OUR GUEST
Margaret is a clinical psychologist with over 27 years experience. She’s also a writer and podcaster (SelfWork). She has a new book called, Perfectly Hidden Depression: How to Break Free from the Perfectionism that Masks Your Depression. She has written for HuffPost, The Mighty, Psych Central, The Gottman Blog, Psychologies, StigmaFighters, The Good Men Project, and This Is My Brave.
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| 0:00.0 | Like a lot of people I got into personal growth and development during a really challenging part of my life, |
| 0:08.0 | the people, usually the people who get most into personal growth and development and positivity and gratitude, usually |
| 0:15.3 | it's because you're feeling the opposite. |
| 0:17.7 | It makes sense, right? |
| 0:18.7 | Most of the people in the health food store are not healthy, right? |
| 0:21.0 | That's why they're in the health food store. And the same thing with personal growth and development. |
| 0:25.4 | In that community, in that world, there's this concept of smile or die. |
| 0:29.8 | I think there's even a TED Talk by the same name. |
| 0:32.0 | I'll link up in the show notes to that |
| 0:33.9 | TED Talk. But it's this concept that, you know, we should wear a brave face, that we should |
| 0:37.8 | suck it up and power through with smiles and gratitude, and somehow that will make everything all right. |
| 0:44.5 | We tend to applaud those types of people. |
| 0:47.6 | We tend to really look up to people who can smile through adversity, but in many cases there's hidden depression there if you're new here this is the |
| 0:56.2 | Lucas Rockwood show on this podcast every week I go under the world of health and wellness |
| 1:00.7 | personal growth development yoga and, and I find people |
| 1:04.3 | doing interesting work, medical doctors and PhDs and yoga people, and I try to bring their |
| 1:08.9 | best work to you here on the show to hopefully help you and me and all of us lived more fulfilled lives on this |
| 1:15.7 | week's show we'll meet with a clinical psychologist who's been in practice for 27 |
| 1:20.5 | years and she's got really great insight into this concept of hidden depression and the |
| 1:25.6 | potential fallout that can come as a result. |
| 1:28.4 | I hope you enjoy the show. |
| 1:29.7 | If you like it, the best way to show your support is to leave a rating and review on iTunes |
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