Welcome to unfuck your brain. I'm your host Kara Lowentile, master-certified coach, and founder of the School of New Feminist Thought. I'm here to help you turn down your anxiety, turn up your confidence, and create a life on your own terms, one that you're truly excited to live.

Let's go.

Welcome to this week's coaching hotline episode where I answer real questions from real listeners

and coach you from afar.

If you want to submit your question for consideration, go to unfuck your brain.com forward slash

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Let's get into this week's questions.

Here's the first question. I'm struggling with body image. I've read anti-diet and the

fuck-it diet. I've been working on intuitive eating. I'm really getting stuck on the fact that

my parents were so mean to me about my body. I remember being a size six in high school,

my parents being mean about my weight. I'm now a plus size.

I find myself changing clothes in the morning and saying to myself, no one wants to see that,

you're too big to wear that.

Those are the things my parents used to say to me.

If my own parents couldn't love me when I was way smaller, how can I love myself

or accept that anyone could love me romantically, especially now that I'm way bigger. So what you're assuming is that

your size actually had anything to do with what your parents said to you and that they didn't love you,

right? There's a lot of jumps in here. So number one, people can love someone and still say things to

them about their weight because love is a feeling created by your thoughts and the action of

saying things about someone's weight

is created by a different thought about their weight. It's something people really don't understand

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