Hi, my name is John Kim and I'm a therapist who went through his own

rebirth. I share my feelings and revelations. I believe in casual or

clinical and with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose because self-help

doesn't have to be so complicated.

Why do we have so many freaking pillows on our beds?

There's like five or six pillows and then some of us have stuffed animals right like our beds are covered with things so like in Japan there's one pillow for your your head and that's it I mean they don't even have beds. They sleep on the floor. It's like one pillow on the floor.

Anyway, I just think that as Americans we have a lot of things and we should stop putting them on our beds

But you know what I do think is important is is threat counts. I think threat count is

crucial to quality of life and there's nothing worse than a very low thread count bad.

I mean, well the sheets on the bed the blankets scratchy sheets is like

wearing socks with holes in them so I do understand the thread count thing I do not understand the threat count thing. I do not understand the 15 pillows, the decorative pillows. I know that it makes your bed look better, but then at the end of the night you got to take it all off to go to sleep.

Anyway, let's talk about four things that make him marriage material and I want to say,

I want to put quotes around marriage material because I want to say I want to put quotes around marriage material

because I don't want to promote this idea that you know you you have to be married

to be happy or I mean or that you even have to be in a relationship to be happy right I'm using the words marriage material as a concept as a term because we in our society used that as a term. So here are the four things that I believe.

Now of course there are many things, but if I had the pig four, and I'm also trying to be kind of creative, so they're not obvious things, right? But things that maybe you have not thought about. And I also want to say that if you are a man

these are also four things that I think make a woman marriage material quote

unquote marriage material. Okay, one, fire in his belly, right?

He has to have a passion for something.

He's going somewhere.

I know for me in my story I've lived a lot of my life with zero fire in my belly not even a pilot light and it's it's destructive to relationships you know I always tell people that first

where ask yourself where you're going and then second ask yourself who's going

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