We even say things like, I just met the most perfect person.

Or he or she is perfect for me or they are perfect for me.

Just the idea of saying they are perfect for me, I found the perfect person.

When we say things like that, we're creating this pressure and emphasis

that we're going to end up with someone perfect.

And therefore we try and be that perfect person and they try to live up to that too.

Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world.

Thanks to each and every one of you that come back every week to listen, learn and grow.

Now, you know that one of the things I've been fascinated a lot lately with,

is something that it sounds like you're all fascinated with and it's love,

it's relationships, it's breakup, it's connection.

The reason why I'm fascinated with this is because it has such a big, deep impact on our lives.

I notice people go through some of the greatest transitions and personal transformations in their life

when they are trying to meet someone, when someone just left their life.

And one of the biggest questions that I'm constantly asked when it comes to relationships is,

how do I know when I'm in love? Is this love? Are we in love?

And some people would say, well, if you have to ask the question, then you're not,

then you wouldn't know. And I would actually say the opposite.

It's a really healthy question to ask. It's a really important question to ask.

It's fascinating, isn't it? We spend so long trying to figure out the answer to questions

like, what should I eat tonight? What should I wear to that event?

Maybe we spend a longer time trying to think about, should I live in this city or town?

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