4 Reasons We Try To Change Others And How To Cultivate Tolerance, Patience, Compassion Instead

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

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Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Business

4.7 • 30.5K Ratings

🗓️ 28 May 2021

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy? It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion. Key Takeaways: 01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life? 02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children 03:36The reasons why we try to change others 05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves 05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people 08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change 12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking 15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right 18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity 20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside job Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! Achieve success in every area of your life with Jay Shetty’s Genius Community. Join over 10,000 members taking their holistic well-being to the next level today, at https://shetty.cc/OnPurposeGenius

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0:00.0	Have you ever been in a relationship where once you broke up you felt like you could finally go back to being yourself?
0:05.5	Were you realized you were only doing insane things to make the other person happy or keep them from fighting?
0:11.2	Or maybe you had the experience at a job where you performed in a way that wasn't really you,
0:15.7	but you did it to advance or to keep from making waves?
0:24.7	Hey everyone, welcome back to OnPurper.
0:27.5	Thank you so much for being back.
0:29.5	I really mean that. I really, really do. I've been bumping into so many of you on Hikes or when I'm out in the streets
0:36.3	and I love hearing how much this podcast means to you and how it helps you and serves you.
0:42.0	It means the world to me and I love reading all your reviews.
0:45.0	If you haven't left one yet, please, please, please, go and leave a review.
0:48.0	We have over 15,000 five star reviews. It's it's truly, truly amazing and it's been an amazing few months on the podcast.
0:56.5	We've had Oprah on the podcast. We've had the one and only Will Smith.
1:01.0	This year we've had JLo. We've had Big Sean. We've had Jene Eiko.
1:06.0	If you have not heard those episodes, make sure you go back and listen to them because they were game changes for the people who did.
1:13.5	And today is going to be no different.
1:16.0	Today is all about why we can't change people.
1:20.5	The four reasons we try anyway and how to build tolerance, patience and compassion instead.
1:28.5	How many of you know someone you wish would change?
1:35.0	How many of you put your hands up high have tried to change someone in your life?
1:43.5	And how many of you are not in the long right now because you failed to change someone?
1:50.5	I heard all the time.
1:52.5	If only my partner could change she'd be perfect.
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