You're going to be. Welcome to the happiness podcast. I'm Dr. Robert Puff. If you are to ask me what is a key

essential component of happiness or what is a fundamental element to happiness?

What would it be?

And today, let's explore together this fundamental element of happiness, which when we get it, when we understand it, when we

live by it, we will be happy.

But what is it? What is this a lixer of suffering and the fundamental key

to happiness? What is it? And though it may seem very simple in its complexity, it can be one of the

most hardest tasks for us to do in life. Yet, it is possible. It is possible.

First, let's explore what causes suffering. Why do we suffer? There was a woman I once worked with who, though

she was a wonderful person, she really struggled with life. One of her biggest struggles was her weight.

She felt overweight, she felt unattractive, and she was very self critical of this fact. But I remember when I worked with her,

years and years ago, it was perhaps 10 years prior to me meeting her.

Her husband and her were on a dinner date and they were having a nice time and he made a comment

about her weight which wasn't kind.

He immediately apologized and took it back and was very sorry for what he said.

But in her head, she kept hearing it over and over again the comment he made.

And unfortunately, she added to this barrage of negativity by commenting

on her own weight over and over again in very negative ways.

And even though the comment her husband made had occurred only once

and had occurred ten years prior,

his words kept resonating in her brain and it caused her a great deal of suffering,

along with her own negative self-criticism.

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