You never hear about men losing themselves in their marriage.

Of all the years I've been coaching of all the books I've read about coaching all the seminars I've been to

It's always women standing up and saying I feel like I've lost myself. I don't know my identity

People don't know what to do with that when women are just like not on that wheel of like searching, finding a man, having a man catering to a man.

They're just like, what do you mean you're just, you're just working?

Oprah has this thing where she says, you know, What do you mean? You're just working.

Oprah has this thing where she says, you know, when something's not right, you'll get like,

I'm paraphrasing, like, you'll get like a pinch

and then you'll get like a pluck.

And then it'll be like something else

and then it'll be like a full brick in your forehead.

So you can listen at the pinch of the pluck

or you can listen when you get the brick.

But one day you're going to have to come forth and face

which you don't want to hear.

Well, I think everyone who's been in a bad relationship,

like knows what it feels like to be partnered with the wrong person.

You get married to the wrong person,

it's a hundred times worse.

This is the Secret Lives of Black Woman.

I'm Lauren.

I'm Charlotte.

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