You all really seem to respond to my boundary episodes.

I received so many comments and questions that I decided to respond to one of the themes

that arose, unhealthy communication.

Do you or people you're close with engage in behaviors that break down communication

and lead to more distance in your relationships?

If so, this episode is for you.

Welcome back to Savvy Psychologist.

I'm your host, Dr. Monica Johnson.

Every week on this show, I'll help you face life's challenges with evidence-based approaches,

a sympathetic ear and zero judgment.

In today's episode, I'm going to share four communication errors that can ruin your relationships.

These are commonly referred to as the Four Horsemen and come to us from relationship experts,

Dr. John and Julia Gottman.

They have written several books on relationships, and while they primarily focus on romantic

relationships, I have seen these communication assassins in all types of relationships.

The first assassin is criticism.

Now, I know what you may be thinking.

Does this mean I can never express my displeasure in the relationship?

No!

You need to understand the difference between unhealthy criticism and a legitimate complaint.

Let's say your partner agreed to make dinner, and when you get home from work, you notice

they are watching TV and there is no dinner in sight.

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