4 Big Signs That a Relationship Won't Last and the Latest Science on Creating Love with Drs. Julie and John Gottman

Dhru Purohit Show

Dhru Purohit

Alternative Health, Medicine, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 3.6K Ratings

🗓️ 8 December 2022

⏱️ 92 minutes

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This episode is brought to you by BiOptimizers, InsideTracker, and Big Bold Health. Today on The Dhru Purohit Podcast, Dhru sits down with the cofounders of the Gottman Institute, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, to discuss the “Gottman Method.” Their award-winning evidence-based approach sets out to disarm conflict and increase intimacy, respect, and empathy for happy, lasting relationships. Dr. John Gottman is a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington, where he founded the Love Lab. Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman is a highly respected clinical psychologist and cofounder of Affective Software, Inc. In this episode, we dive into: - The four horsemen of a relationship apocalypse (3:24) - The foundational things that healthy, successful relationships have (12:22) - How our past plays a role in how we relate to our partner (15:46) - The importance of turning toward your partner instead of away from them (20:22) - The impact of Covid-19 on relationships (35:47) - Practical tips for entering into a love prescription with your partner (41:34) - How to address conflict in a relationship when things aren’t going well (54:29) - The 5-to-1 positive-to-negative rule (1:09:18) - How to find a partner you can build a life with (1:11:09) - Drs. John and Julie Gottman’s favorite questions to ask your partner (1:30:04) Also mentioned in this episode: -The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy -Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love -52 Questions Before Marriage or Moving In Card Deck -Gottman Card Decks - Free app For more on Drs. John and Julie Gottman, visit their website, gottman.com. Magnesium Breakthrough really stands out from the other magnesium supplements out there. BiOptimizers is offering my community 10% off, so just head over to https://www.magbreakthrough.com/dhru with code DHRU10. InsideTracker provides detailed nutrition and lifestyle guidance based on your individual needs. Right now, they’re offering my podcast community 20% off. Just go to https://www.insidetracker.com/DHRU to get your discount and try it out for yourself. Right now, Big Bold Health is offering my listeners $20 off all of their products. Just go to https://www.bigboldhealth.com/product/dhru-purohit/ to get all of their products for $20 off with code DHRU20. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The number of times a partner listens to contempt in a 15-minute conflict conversation
0:07.8	predicts not only the demise of the relationship but the demise of that partner's immune system.
0:16.4	Welcome to the Drew Pro at Podcast. Each week we explore the inner
0:19.9	workings of the brain and the body with one of the brightest minds in wellness, medicine,
0:24.3	and mindset. Today we have two bright minds with us. This week's guests are Dr.
0:28.8	Julie and John Gottman co-founders and a couple, an adorable couple at that, of the Gottman
0:36.0	Institute, a research center that's dedicated to teaching evidence-based tools to couples
0:43.3	and families out there based on the latest science and research around what actually helps people
0:49.9	fall and stay in love. The Gottman's have a new book out. It's called The Love Prescription
0:54.9	and it's a seven-day journey to more intimacy, connection, and joy that's based on some of the
1:02.1	research out of their center. And on today's podcast, not only do we dive into all the tips inside
1:07.9	of the book, we also talk about the four horsemen of the apocalypse as they call in their work. These
1:14.8	are four traits and habits and characteristics that couples embody that at a certain level,
1:23.1	that again, they've identified through the Gottman Center. If they happen at a certain level
1:26.9	in frequency, they are one of the greatest predictors that a relationship will not work out,
1:32.3	will not work out. So you definitely want to know what these are to catch them and repair them
1:37.5	if they're happening in your relationship. Now a little bit about Dr. Julie and John Gottman,
1:42.6	starting with Dr. John Gottman, he previously served as the executive director of the
1:47.2	Relationship Research Institute and is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington, where he
1:53.2	co-founded The Love of Lab. He is world-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce
1:58.3	prediction and has conducted 40 years of groundbreaking research with thousands and thousands of couples.
2:04.3	And a little bit about Dr. Julie Gottman, she's the president of the Gottman Institute and co-founder
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