399: The Power of ‘Thank You’ with Nancy Davis Kho

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Lucas Rockwood

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🗓️ 20 February 2020

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

My piano lessons were a dark, 45-minute drive from home. Mom and I left home at 6:30 am on Tuesday mornings to get there before school. “Luke is really good at this,” Ms. McGill said after my third lesson. I was eight, and that simple comment, deliberately made within earshot, gave me confidence with music that I carry even to this day (despite my obvious lack of skill as an adult).

I never said thank you to Ms. McGill. I should have.

My sophomore year in high school, Mrs. Johnston tortured every paper I gave her with red ink. It was a bloodbath, and I suffered. But at the end of the semester, she gave me an A. It was one of the more meaningful grades I ever received, and her red ink comments continue to help me write better to this day.

Mrs. Johnston smoked and was 50-years older than me, I’m sure she’s passed away by now. I should have said thank you.

On this week’s podcast, we’ll discuss the simple and powerful practice of writing thank you letters: to people, to family members, to cities, to the diseased, and even to people with whom you’ll never see again.

Listen & Learn:

How to leverage positive recall biased
Why gratitude rooted in real-life experiences anchors positivity
How to write letters and then decide later if you send or don’t send them

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About Our Guest:

Nancy Davis Kho is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in The Washington Post, San Francisco Chronicle, US Magazine, The Rumpus, and The Toast. Her new book is, The Thank You Project: Cultivating Happiness One Letter of Gratitude at a Time.

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0:00.0	In life we have these major turning points where you make decisions and you learn things and you
0:07.2	fall on your face and someone helps you get back up where you need a hand and somebody
0:11.2	lends you 500 bucks or someone lets you sleep on their
0:13.7	couch or someone gives you a piece of advice that it's really life changing.
0:17.9	If you think back in the past 10, 20 years, whatever it is, very likely some names pop into your mind right away and if you're like me most of those people you haven't actually sat down and taken a moment to say thanks
0:29.0	thanks for letting me sleep on your couch thanks for giving me the advice about that business move to make.
0:34.7	Thanks for giving me that tip about how to manage my stress. Whatever it was that that
0:38.9	person did, very rarely have we actually pen to paper or fingers on keys articulated.
0:45.7	Our thank you message and it's a really, really valuable exercise that really puts you in a positive
0:49.8	state of mind, attracts more positive relationships and more supportive people into your life, and it's something of my
0:53.7	tracks more positive relationships and more supportive people into your life and it's
0:54.7	something that's really accessible to all of us. If you're new here this is the
0:58.8	Lucas Rockwood show. I'm your host. I'm a yoga teacher, a trainer, I am a
1:02.2	serial entrepreneur, a nutritional coach, I'm a yoga teacher, a trainer, I am a serial entrepreneur, a nutritional coach, I'm a father, but first and foremost, I'm a student and on this show I go out into the world of health and wellness, personal growth and development, mindfulness, and I find experts in their field,
1:14.0	and I bring their best work to you here on this short show
1:18.0	to hopefully help you live a more fulfilling life.
1:20.0	I'd like to do the same myself on this week's show an author who did this
1:24.1	experiment where she wrote thank you letters every week for a year to all the
1:27.3	important people in her life and her story will hopefully inspire you to do the
1:31.9	same.
1:32.6	As always, your questions, comments, and feedback are most welcome.
1:35.8	Send me a message on Instagram.
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