391: Finding Common Ground

Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy

Cloud10

Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.5 • 1.9K Ratings

🗓️ 9 June 2023

⏱️ 27 minutes

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Summary

When our brain is in a threat response our view narrows and we typically only see our side. Relationship research shows that secure couples are able to find common ground in conflict and widen their perspective to include their partner. Holding opposing points of view helps to reduce the negative cycle as partners are able to understand, validate and provide empathy to one another. And we know that this can be SO HARD! Join George and Laurie for today's episode where they discuss and role play how to find and stay on common ground with your partner during conflict. Join us on September 8th at 9am EST for our virtual couples retreat, Great Love and Great Sex to learn more conflict resolution skills and keys to a more loving relationship and how to keep it hot after all these years! Check out our sponsor for this episode: Foria enhances your sex life with natural oils. These are absorbed into your skin and enhance the sexual experience. Their Awake & Arousal Oil and Sex Oil are great ways to have a better orgasm. Try it you'll like it! Use the link above or use the code 'foreplay' at checkout to get 20% off your first order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	The following content is not suitable for children.
0:02.4	George, we're looking for a common ground.
0:04.8	Yeah, baby.
0:05.8	We got to find a way to see our partner and their struggles and their strengths and them to see us.
0:14.2	Where is that common ground?
0:16.6	Amen.
0:19.8	Welcome to Portplay Sex Therapy.
0:22.0	I'm Dr. Laurie Watson, your sex therapist.
0:24.3	I'm George Valley, a couple's therapist.
0:26.8	We are here to talk about sex.
0:28.8	Our mission is to help couples talk about sex
0:32.2	in ways that incorporate their body, their mind, and their hearts.
0:36.8	And we have a little bit of fun doing it, right, G?
0:39.3	Listen and let's change some relationships.
0:42.7	I think that's what at the hottest thing for couples, right, is to see a different
0:46.8	your partner's perspective.
0:48.7	Especially when threatened, we know the brain gets narrow.
0:51.7	We focus on our own survival and protection.
0:54.0	So it's really hard to see our partner's perspective when we're in places of threat.
0:58.5	You know, but I think what's been fun is we've been playing around, Laurie and I,
1:03.4	no pun intended, with both this sexual and the emotional cycle, so many couples switch positions.
1:11.6	So it's a great way of finding common ground to recognize.
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