390 Two Steps Forward, Three Steps Back (Why You Keep Self-Sabotaging and How to Finally Stop)
I Have ADHD Podcast
Kristen Carder
4.8 • 3.1K Ratings
🗓️ 31 March 2026
⏱️ 73 minutes
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Summary
If you’ve ever set a goal, made a plan, felt excited… and then somehow done the exact opposite—welcome to the ADHD self-sabotage club.
In this episode, I’m sharing a powerful class from inside my ADHD coaching membership, FOCUSED, all about self-sabotage—why it happens, what it actually means, and how to finally understand what’s going on in your brain.
But before we get into it, a little context:
Right now, I’m intentionally taking the path of least resistance to support my ADHD brain and protect my energy. Instead of creating brand-new content from scratch while feeling stretched thin, I’m sharing some of the most impactful classes I’ve already taught inside FOCUSED.
And this one?
It got raving reviews.
Members told me:
- “This explained my brain in a way I’ve never understood before.”
- “I finally see what’s happening when I get in my own way.”
So if you’ve ever told yourself:
- “Why can’t I just follow through?”
- “What is wrong with me?”
- “Why do I keep sabotaging myself?”
This episode is going to shift how you see yourself—and your ADHD. Because self-sabotage isn’t a character flaw. It’s a pattern with a reason. And once you understand it, everything starts to change.
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| 0:00.0 | Quick heads up. This is your last chance to sign up for my free live webinar happening in just a |
| 0:04.7 | couple of days. We are down to the wire here. It's called Too Much and Not Enough. Why ADHD |
| 0:10.5 | adults feel in trouble in their relationships and how to finally feel secure. If you've ever |
| 0:16.4 | felt off in your relationship, like you're over apologizingologizing, people-pleasing, masking who you are, |
| 0:21.1 | or swinging between bending over backwards and then blowing up. This webinar is for you, |
| 0:26.1 | because that feeling of being in trouble, it's not random and it's not your personality. |
| 0:30.6 | There's a real reason why your brain and body are reacting this way, and once you understand |
| 0:34.1 | it, everything will start to shift. In this webinar, I'm going to help you connect the dots and show you the first step toward actually feeling secure in your relationships. We're going live soon. We're going live Wednesday, April 1st at 12 p.m. Eastern. You got to sign up. Yes, I'll send you a replay, but you got to sign up to get one. So if this is resonating, go to I have a ADHD.com slash relationships. That's I have ADHD.com |
| 0:56.9 | slash relationships to sign up and I will see you there. This episode is sponsored by Marley Spoon. |
| 1:02.7 | By February, the whole new year, new routine thing can start to feel exhausting. If you're |
| 1:08.8 | anything like me, you want to eat well, but not at the cost of your |
| 1:11.9 | sanity. And that's where Marley Spoon has been such a relief. What I genuinely love about Marley Spoon |
| 1:18.0 | is how ridiculously easy they make everything. Like really, really ridiculously easy. You choose |
| 1:25.3 | from over 100 recipes each week, all chef designed, made with |
| 1:29.5 | quality ingredients, and flexible enough to match your actual energy level. They've also got a |
| 1:34.8 | marketplace where you can add meal shortcuts, drinks, and groceries, a one-stop shop that makes |
| 1:39.8 | everything feel just a little more doable. And let's talk about those nights when cooking feels like |
| 1:44.8 | just too much. I can't do it. Marley Spoon's prepared meals are perfect for that. Heat, eat, |
| 1:52.1 | done. No guilt. No takeout spiral. Just dinner that works for your family. And when I do want to cook, |
| 1:58.5 | their tray bake meals are my go-to. One tray, minimal cleanup, |
| 2:02.5 | and a meal that tastes like I put in way more effort than I actually did. There's something really |
| 2:07.4 | grounding about having meals handled, knowing dinner is going to taste good without spending |
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